Enable means to make something possible.
Nigerian men enable it.
But nobody can enable you to be something you are not, or not already willing to be. You already feel entitled before someone enables it. You can choose to not be entitled. You can choose to chastise his behaviour by being different and not making stupid demands just because. You can be better by giving as much as you receive.
Nobody can make you feel entitled. They only enable the entitlement you already feel. You do not have a problem with it, that is why you choose to remain entitled. You are not a robot. You are a person with a choice.
We tend to downplay this so much but we need money to do alot of things.
Money is a fuel.
Money is the water that nourishes your brilliant ideas into life.
“Abeg, the phone too cost. I no go like use my own money buy am”…
You see that talk right there…
Is the reason no matter how you extend yourself and try to spend much to impress a Woman, she lowkey just sees you as an id!ot coz with her own hard-earned money, she wouldn’t even do it for herself.. So in her head, for you to bring yourself to do it, it can’t be ‘love’.. It must be stupidity.
That’s the basic psychology behind why most women PUNISH men that go out of their way to please them in the long run.
AKA “Did I force you to do it for me” ?
Yep.. Exactly!
Every generation eventually finds someone to blame for its declining standards. Years ago it was television, then social media, then TikTok. Today it’s Peller.
Tomorrow it will be someone else. The names change, but the habit remains the same.
The uncomfortable truth is this: no creator is powerful enough to lower the standard of a society that genuinely values excellence. A society’s values are revealed by what it consistently rewards with its attention, money, and admiration.
Peller didn’t wake up and convince millions of people to watch him. Millions decided he was worth watching.
That’s a mirror, not a conspiracy.
If you believe intellectual content deserves more recognition, then consume it, share it, fund it, and celebrate the people creating it. Culture doesn’t change because we complain about what’s popular. Culture changes when enough people make better choices repeatedly.
We often mistake visibility for influence. The truth is, influence follows demand. Fix the demand, and the supply will adjust. Until then, blaming one young creator for the appetite of an entire generation is avoiding the harder conversation about ourselves.
The reason I relate well with people of all classes and financial background is that, I've since understood that money is just a tool. It does not represent or define our humanity. I figured this out as a child. It is not late for you to come to terms.
Everyone has their reason for wanting to be rich. I'm a simple man. I just want to leave a legacy of giving people a better life than the one they had before I met them - with primary focus on education and health care.
If I make the kind of money I'm looking for, I'll add foreign masters to it. Good education is the only way to create a mental shift, give dignity to people, give people options, and a chance to compete for their place in this world. A perfect weapon to build a country
I bookmarked this to respond later. Here you go.
I remember how I felt when I made my first 5K naira salary - it was the same feeling I had when I made my first 7 figure.
One of the first concepts I mastered was the art of "Joy Regardless".
I couldn't wait until everything makes sense, before I decided to be happy. That mindset have remained consistent throughout my journey.
And about your question? If I could have imagined my current reality then? Guy yes.
I always told my friends: "My chances of making it are higher than my chances of finding love"
I believe in myself die - and I don't allow the variable of brilliance delude me from the necessity of consistently deepening capacity.
Post NYSC, when I was struggling in the dirt of dirts. 20K teaching job with 3 tutorial hustles.
I would come back every evening, wear my nicest shirt and walk into a car shop - pockets empty.
"I like the rims on this one, do you have the color in black?"
"Hmmm. The price isn't bad. Can I see the BMW equivalent?"
I'd do this from car shop to car shop. Not because I wanted to waste their time, swimming in delusion or had nothing better to do with my time but I understood the power of visualization.
Sportsmen use it all the time.
You see bah, you stay long in a particular situation - your system starts to normalize it. You start to figure out how to "manage".
" 20K salary abi. Well, if I see like 50K own. I'll just try and walk 2km instead of entering bus"
This is worse than comfort zone because there's no iota of comfort and you're slowly conditioning yourself to optimize it as your new normal.
I found ways to constantly put fire in mybosom.
To make your dreams nightmares, and your living daylight daydreams. Visualization helps you to see what is possible.
It doesn't have to be with cars, but it has to be with variables incredibly beyond your reach at the moment.
You'll never be big. You'll never grow. You'll never breakforth - if your mind hasn't first conceived the possibility of that future.
Don't let your mind condition what's supposed to be a bus stop for you, become a final destination.
The hardest truth about relationships is this:
Most people don’t fall in love with who you are, they fall in love with the season of life they met you in.
Meet someone while you’re spending recklessly, and they may mistake your lifestyle for your character.
Meet someone while you’re successful, and they may confuse your provision for your personality.
But life has a way of stripping away money, status, beauty, and comfort until only character remains.
That’s when you discover whether they chose you, or they only chose the life you could provide.
The biggest mistake isn’t marrying the wrong person.
It’s building a forever decision on temporary circumstances.
My friend said the happiness he gets from being married to his wife equates to the satisfaction people get from financial security when they look at their bank account. He is not even rich but he is very content and very happy. I've known him for over a decade and his financial situation has never affected his mood or relationship. Very decent fellow.
One day he was with me what she called his wife and told her he is feeling very generous and she should ask for anything. This woman said "popcorn" and he laughed. He told her that your husband is feeling generous and you are asking for popcorn. She said, "but that is what I want na. Buy me popcorn."
I just smiled and shook my head because I know many rich people who do not have what he has.
I’M DONEEEEEEEE. 😭💜
After years of lectures, assignments, tests, practicals, exams, and trying to survive both school and the markets…
I’m finally a graduate.
Little Miss Purple is finally a graduate!💜
I will always get vindicated.
Marrying a broke, jobless woman from a wretched family will hardly ever end well.
Women who were raised in severe lack and survival cannot love you. To them, every man is simply a means to an end.
They cannot give what they do not have.
Oh. I had just 5 minutes to get to his office as I had an impromptu test that dragged. So I ran to his office to meet up with time. Got there panting. He offered me a seat, a sandwich and a cold drink. Then said "next time, just send an email, I'd understand".
I wanted to cry because that's some form of trauma that I shouldn't have picked up if I came from a sane place.
Until you date a generous and responsible woman, you will never understand how much women love spending on the man they love and being financially responsible to the family.
I dont understand why a man is asked to go get married just because he has made money.
"You have a good job. You have a good apartment. You have money. What are you waiting for? Get yourself a woman."
Get a woman to do what? Getting married is not the problem, I have a problem with the monetary qualification. Why do I need money to get married and she comes as she is?
Marriage is a merger not an acquisition. Thus, your financial status is irrelevant. Whatever stage you are in life and you choose to commit, the parties come together to do life together, which means that the bills become one. Both income are family income and the couple put family first by investing both income to the success of the home. Marriage is not the acquiring of somebody to increase your burden and expenses.
It’s dangerous telling people they “need” luck or grace to succeed. It leaves room for manipulation by pastors.
Luck and grace are outside your control. You can’t pray them into existence. What you can do is prepare. Because luck determines which opportunity appears but preparation determines whether you can capitalize on it.
If you have no skill in engineering and you get luckily picked for an engineering job, you’re still going to fail at it.
So focus on what you can control. Your effort, skills, and discipline. Let luck take care of itself.
Back to what I was saying yesterday
If God blesses you, your wife and kids are lifted
If God blesses your wife, then the burden is less on you.
If you raise 1,000 men, there is a chance that 1,000 new families are created.
If you raise 1,000 women, then there will be 1,000 more comfortable women.
This is the honest to God truth from God Himself.
quit porn
and replace your worn out boxers
get a haircut every 2 weeks
shower twice daily
own a few quality polos and button down shirts
have at least 5 pairs of footwear for different occasions
own at least 2 good perfumes, if you can afford it, invest in 1 quality designer fragrance
use a roll-on deodorant (not antiperspirant)
drink a glass of water first thing in the morning and do a few push-ups
brush your teeth twice a day and clean your tongue before retiring for the day
use the restroom before leaving the house
dress well no matter where you’re going
above all, love God
save, bookmark and share with your brothers
buena suerte as you walk with me. 🫱🏼🫲🏾