Marshal 🧢

PREJUDICED AGAINST ALL RACES AND SEXES | Idealist & Realist | Humour & Cruise 🚤 | @Arsenal FC ⚽🔴

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

What’s the point of being alive if you don’t at least try to do something remarkable?

[Dr Joe Abah, OON @DrJoeAbah]

Gentlemen, when someone misbehaves, do not react so angrily that your response overshadows the initial misbehaviour and now becomes the issue.

Don’t end up being the one needing to apologise when you were initially the victim of bad behaviour.

Be clear that you will not accept or tolerate the misbehaviour, but be measured in how you express your disapproval. This is especially important when you are in a position of authority over the other person. It is also especially important in your relationship with your woman.

I am Ezemmuo. I know things.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@Kabugo_ People's true character is revealed by what they say when you've left the room and there's nothing to gain from defending you.

When they protect your reputation in your absence, they're not just showing loyalty, they're revealing the value of the relationship.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

The right person won't be threatened by your standards, they will admire them. They won't resist your boundaries, they will respect them. And they won't fear your depth, they will meet you there.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

People often assume kindness is endless because it doesn't demand attention. But a kind heart can get tired too. The saddest mistake is treating someone's patience, understanding, and loyalty as if they'll always be there.

Some people don't leave because they stopped caring; they leave because they finally realized caring wasn't being appreciated. Once a good heart closes its door, finding another like it is never guaranteed.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@sley_Xk Either you're marrying the wrong person or you're walking into marriage with the wrong mindset.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

A friend of mine once went through a period where everything in his life collapsed at once. He lost his job, his relationship ended. And the friends he thought would stand by him slowly disappeared.

For weeks he barely spoke to anyone. One evening he told me he was sitting alone in his small room, staring at everything and anything in the room, wondering how life could fall apart so quickly. Then something small happened. His little niece visited the house with her mom. She ran into the room, jumped on the bed beside him, and asked him a simple question: “Why are you always sad now?”

He didn’t know what to say. She then handed him a crayon drawing she had made. Details with a stick figure man with a huge smile. “That’s you,” she said. He laughed for the first time in weeks. That night he realized something powerful, that he had been focusing only on what he lost, and forgot that some people still saw light in him.

From that day, he made one rule for himself, to do one small thing every day that moves life forward. Some days it was just applying for one job. Some days it was just going to visit his sister to have his niece make him have some smiles. Months later his life wasn’t perfect, but it was moving again.

And he told me something I never forgot: “Sometimes the thing that saves your mind isn’t a big breakthrough. It’s one small reminder that your story isn’t finished yet”.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

I think context matters.

If you're dating a single mother and you've built a relationship with her child, then wishing the child a happy birthday is just basic courtesy. It takes seconds and shows thoughtfulness.

But if the child doesn't live with the mother, you've never met the child, or you have little to no relationship with them, then I don't think forgetting or not sending a birthday message is enough reason on its own to end a relationship.

A birthday wish is a nice gesture, not necessarily a measure of commitment. The bigger question is whether the person is generally thoughtful, respectful, and supportive. One missed birthday message can be an oversight; a consistent pattern of indifference is a different conversation entirely.

Sometimes people attach deeper meaning to a missed gesture than the gesture itself actually carries.

[𝙎𝙖𝙢 💔🦅🇦🇷🇪🇸 @StfuSmog]

Date a single mothers at your own risk. 😂
Them go make sure say dem pour all their responsibilities for ur head. Lmao

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

Want to know what really makes a person magnetic? It’s “playful dominance”. Lose the playfulness and you come off as controlling. Lose the dominance and you’re just another nice friend.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@Ziz_Moslight @beautifulTosin @Wizarab10 Easy to clock 😂

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@Man_in_transit @beautifulTosin @Wizarab10 Exactly. Straightforwardness with most ladies can come across to them as being "too horny or needy"

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@moemudi01 Some people are running a race. Others are continuing a relay where the baton was handed to them generations ago.

Not every success story started from the bottom line.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@beautifulTosin @Wizarab10 Sometimes it's better to familiarize oneself with strangers before going straight to the point, if they are not there for business.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@oforezika Only if they are not his kids, or they are in the adolescent age, you have no right to tell him that. So are they his?

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@Wizarab10 It's open for a reason, and it's their choice to respond or not. So don't feel bad for trying to socialize.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@beautifulTosin @Wizarab10 All these rules are for people you don't rate.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

Dating isn’t a game of options or endless auditions. It’s a season of becoming, so when the time comes, you’re ready to build one covenant with one person.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

You deserve a life that excites you. Don’t let anyone dim that reminder.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

@jon_d_doe Poverty can make people compromise.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

You are not ignored, you are just not a priority. Loving someone who isn’t sure about you slowly makes you doubt yourself. When your effort isn’t returned, you start pulling away because it feels right.

There’s a quiet kind of tiredness that comes from always trying to understand your partner while they don’t try to understand you. It doesn’t make you angry, it just makes you quiet. And little by little, you stop caring as much. When hope keeps hurting you, feeling nothing starts to feel better.

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

Exactly. Redesigning incentives is hard because you’re not just changing rules, you’re changing the people's survival behavior inside the system.

Those already in power benefit from the current incentives (patronage, loyalty networks, control of resources). Changing incentives often means weakening their control, and they are the ones to change it. Can they?

[Marshal 🧢 @temjinem]

In Nigeria, politics often doesn’t look like public service. It looks like survival, ego, patronage, and power games.

Sane and intelligent young people see: A system where loyalty can matter more than competence. Where godfathers, and not merit, open doors. Where integrity can be punished instead of rewarded. Where politics is high-risk and low-trust.

So what do rational people do?
They optimize elsewhere.
They build careers.
They build businesses.
They build skills that travel globally.
They choose environments where effort equals reward.

Nigeria politics is a game mastered by those willing to endure reputational warfare, trade ideals for alliances, and navigate moral gray zones daily.

Many intelligent people aren’t apolitical because they are ignorant, they are just being strategic. They calculate the cost; financial, emotional, reputational, and decide it’s too high.

And when the most balanced minds withdraw, the vacuum doesn’t stay empty, It gets filled. And the systems eventually reflect the people willing to occupy them.

The question to ask now is how to redesign the system so sanity becomes an advantage, and not a liability.