approaching a domme like this gives the same energy as a sub who won't send but expects a response lol
substack, reddit, youtube, and even just observing here has already taught me SO much and helped me realize whether it's the right path for me or not. there are also so many great books written by dominatrixes themselves... if you aren't willing to put in the actual work to research yourself and build authentic connections with other dommes this is not for u!!!
People want experienced Dommes to give out advice for free when our inboxes are FLOODED with advice requests. And if we DON’T respond we’re called gatekeepers 🙄
So you want me to tend to myself, my subs, my businesses, my personal relationships, and now tend to you FOR FREE?
Google is still there. Reddit is still there. Use the free resources. Use the paid resources. You don’t get to dictate how creators who’ve worked hard for their journey respond to you when you want free advice. The discourse on this is getting old 😭
📌 I strongly believe that power exchange should exist only between mature adults who are capable of clear communication and informed consent.
Unfortunately, the BDSM community often tries to place all responsibility for the psychological effects of a dynamic on the Dominant, usually hiding behind the famous Marvel quote: “With great power comes great responsibility.”
I don’t think that principle applies here.
Either the submissive is a mature, consenting adult who is responsible for his own decision to submit - or it cannot be called BDSM at all. If he is incapable of informed consent, then it is simply abuse disguised as BDSM.
There is no way around it. Personal responsibility on BOTH sides is what makes power exchange possible in the first place.
You cannot surrender power you never possessed.
If you have no agency, there is nothing to surrender.
I explore this topic in much greater detail in my latest article.
Consistency is just as important as coming and going for sessions.
I value those who send on a daily or weekly basis even if it looks different than those who drop loads at once and come back again when they have more.
What value are you bringing to Her life?
Men are stronger than women from the physical front, but a woman will always be superior everywhere else.
Even biologically women is stronger. A woman is able to bleed every month, withstand menstrual pain and heal ourselves naturally, we can give birth and get back to business within months
But when a man gets kicked in the ball or develop a fever, suddenly he acts like he’s dying and his days are limited.