i dont think people realize how beneficial being alone for awhile is. taking time off from relationships, finding out who you are & what you want out of your life, learning to love yourself and growing, learning to be content and happy without needing someone. Its crucial.
& i don’t want a man who makes me question where i stand with him. i don’t want to overthink his behavior, decode his texts, or wonder what he’s doing behind my back. i want a man who gives me so much reassurance that my nervous system can finally relax. you shouldn't bring the crazy up out of me that's UNHEALTHY
You can only tolerate so much before that shii turn into resentment. At first you call it patience, understanding, even love… whole time you slowly betraying yourself just to keep the peace. Every boundary you let slide, every pattern you excuse & every feeling you keep swallowing adds up. Eventually that shii gotta come due… and by then, you don’t even feel the same anymore. 💯
CHEATING then coming HOME, kissing somebody, laying next to them & saying “I LOVE YOU” like nothing happened is a DIFFERENT level of cold. 💯 Because now it ain’t just cheating… you looking somebody directly in the FACE while making them live inside a lie YOU created. Then when the truth finally comes out, THEY the one questioning their body, their worth, their intuition & everything they believed about the relationship. That ain’t LOVE. You might love what they DO for you, love the comfort, love having them around… but you don’t deeply RESPECT somebody while secretly doing things you KNOW would break them. I said what I said.
Isolation really does heal you & strengthen your discernment ! Sometimes you really do need to remove yourself, get quiet & just focus on YOU !
IT TOOK ME THREE YEARS TO UNDERSTAND THIS!!! Sometimes the niggga don't even love you forreal he just know you a good ass female and he gone hate to see you loving another nigga the way you loved him. You don't have to keep falling for them lies if your gut feeling telling you the niggga out here doing whatever, fuckinnn off, tryna run game believe your gut you know that niggga more than he know his self.. Happiness over history baby let that toxic shittttt go! For some females it might take sometime but your gut knows the right time, you might've caught em up a couple times HE AINT GONE STOP TREATING U LIKE THAT UNTIL U CAN SHOW U WILLING TO BE HAPPY WITHOUT HIM
God, sharpen my discernment without hardening my heart. Help me recognize good fruit, notice unhealthy patterns, establish wise boundaries, and remain loving without becoming naive.
Working 8–9 hours a day and then going home to about 3-4 hours to yourself, which includes getting ready for the next day, is not living, to be very honest.
One thing I cannot tolerate at this grown age is people who refuse to understand cause and effect. Your actions produced this outcome. Why are you shocked by the consequences of something you deliberately set in motion, then standing there playing victim?