As I pick her for park, I drop her for house make she settle in because I don late for evening ball. I give her my ATM in case she wan buy anything cook before I come back from field.
Naso i see โฆ11k debit, call her immediately: โWetin you buy now now?โ She say, โI fill gas 8kg.โ
You fill 8kg as how baby? Since I buy that cylinder, I never fill 8kg for my life. Wetin we wan dey cook? Gas wey Hilda Baci take cook jollof that year no reach 8kg now๐ญ.
Na that moment I know say i no fit marry
anytime soon
Next August , 2027 at this exact time, you will be standing in the places you used to dream about. Living your most beautiful rich life. Send this to yourself.
this is insane. i genuinely don't understand why ambitious people aren't shown this lecture before their careers start consuming their entire lives.
clayton christensen spent his career studying why successful companies collapse. in his final class, he asked students to apply the theory to themselves: if you keep allocating your time the same way, what life are you actually building?
he had already seen the answer in his own harvard mba class. everyone looked successful at the fifth reunion; by the 10th, 15th, 20th, and 25th, many were unhappy, divorced, and living far from their children.
work shows you the score immediately. close a sale, ship a product, finish a presentation, earn a promotion, get paid.
an hour with your child may produce nothing you can measure today; it may take 20 years to understand what that hour built. so the next free hour goes back to work, one rational decision at a time.
this is how people build lives they never planned: through hundreds of right decisions that lead in the wrong direction, day after day.
money, titles, and headcount are easy to count. christensen believed a life should be measured by the people who became better because you were there.
he died in 2020.
one question remains: if someone saw only where your time, energy, and attention went this year, what would they think actually mattered to you?
the full 19-minute lecture is in the video below.
"The hardest truth is that your greatest work may be seen by no one, and yet you must do it anyway for the one who watches is you."
โ Friedrich Nietzsche
Being morally clean wonโt protect you from wolves. Being strategically useful will. In the real world, you arenโt judged by your heart, youโre judged by your leverage. Youโre either an asset or a liability. Stop asking to be liked. Become too valuable to ignore.
Your relationship with yourself cannot be built entirely around improvement. At some point, you have to become someone you are allowed to enjoy being. You get to be proud of who you are. Present tense.