Ruth - Mother Wound Coach

Guiding daughters of narcissistic mothers towards a life free of anxiety & overwhelming stress by rewiring their nervous systems. Subscribe to YT channel.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Why we should talk about maternal narcissism

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Feeling sympathy for an abusive parent can be a symptom of complex trauma. A response to survive a painful childhood.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Those who can’t respect our boundaries are telling us that they don’t love our no. They only love our yes, our compliance - "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud

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“We can’t manipulate people into swallowing our boundaries by sugarcoating them. Boundaries are a “litmus test” for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will love our wills, our opinions, our separateness.” - Henry Cloud

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Interoception + self-regulation = the formula for maternal trauma resolution. This isn't just theory—it's my lived experience. To find peace, I didn't have to dredge up every painful memory. Instead, through self-regulation, I fortified my nervous system and began living my life

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Did you feel these messages from your mother growing up?

“I see you”
“You can rely on me”
“I love you as you are”
“I am here to protect you”

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

I’m building my child’s brain anytime I respond instead of react during meltdowns or tantrums. 😮‍💨

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

It takes a lot of faith and courage to create their own identity on this journey alone and believe it will stay intact. It takes a lot to grieve the mother she will never get and figure life out on her own.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Healing work for daughters of narcissistic mothers is tough af! These brave daughters, often abused while building their sense of self, must break free from the most intense bond there is in the world- the attachment bond.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

When you don’t exist as a person but rather an object in the relationship with your narcissistic mother, you must detach and forge your path without her.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Daughters of narcissistic have been trying to forge a bond with their mothers from infancy that they don’t get the opportunity to create a sense of self apart from their mother. The reality is they need to give up and mourn the bond and mother that never was.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Algunas madres crían a sus hijos para cuidarlas en la vejez. Su amor se vuelve egoísta, poniendo sus necesidades por encima de las de sus hijos. Estas madres pueden convertirse en víctimas y agentes de una lucha por el poder en la familia.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

When raised by a narcissistic mother, you’re treated like an object rather than a person. But as an adult, the goal is to break free from this dynamic and embrace your own worth and individuality, even if your mother doesn't acknowledge it.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

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Signs you experienced maternal narcissistic abuse:

Your mother imposes rules and boundaries upon you, expecting compliance, but disregards your own boundaries and needs. Your voice is silenced, and your autonomy undermined.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Signs you experienced maternal narcissistic abuse:

Your mother deflects responsibility and projects her abuse onto you. She may label you as abusive or selfish, causing confusion and self-doubt. Gaslighting becomes a weapon to manipulate your perception.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Narcissistic parents struggle to accept any shortcomings within themselves. Instead, they justify their reluctance to give love by blaming the child, making it seem like the child's fault that love is withheld.

[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

Trauma is cumulative.

Each time we experience it, it’s like our nervous system takes another “hit.”

HEALING is ALSO cumulative.
Every step towards nervous system regulation is encoded such that even when we feel an ebb—

NO HEALING IS EVER LOST.

[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

Here’s a trauma response we don’t talk about enough: Stress About NO-Stress.

When we’ve struggled for SO long, NOT struggling feels painful—

literally, we become Hyper-Vigilant.

If you’re waiting for the proverbial other shoe to drop…it’s natural.

[Ruth - Mother Wound Coach @thehealingdaugh]

Maternal narcissistic abuse looks like: Isolation and Family Dynamics -Your mother thrives on the outside appearance of a loving family, but behind closed doors, she mistreats and abuses her family members. This isolates you from seeking support and reinforces the cycle of abuse.