"Should I quit my secure 9-5?"
Probably.
The truth is, if you don't feel a connection to the people you work with, you can't be enough of yourself.
Over time this gets exhausting.
When it comes to your career, security without belonging isn't enough.
"Should I quit my job?"
If your job isn't:
1. Paying you correctly or on time
2. Giving you the basic tools to work
3. Feels like it could disappear tomorrow
... you already have your answer.
A sense of security is the bare minimum for a job to provide.
Young people massively underestimate how their public social media can kill high-paying job offers
I have personally seen 5 offer letters pulled in NY over social media content. All were 300k plus total comp roles. Real cases
If you are aiming for 85k forever, you are probably fine
If you want bigger things, read this
My clients who are stuck on the question "should I quit my job?" are usually looking for the answer in the wrong place.
They're worried about fulfilment and ambition before checking whether the basic stuff is there, like a sense of security or coworkers you enjoy.
@DrewVento It's a privilege to have the time and skill to prioritize preparing food for my family.
There are few things I'd rather spend my time on.
It's the cleanup that sucks. Someone create DoTheDishes, so I can gig it out.
People quit their jobs for three reasons:
1. They can't be enough of themselves.
2. They don't like the people they work with.
3. The compensation isn't right.
2 and 3 are pretty easy to figure out.
1 is where people get lost.
One of the biggest tensions in company cultures is kindness is necessary for functional relationships, but unkindness is necessary for functional systems.
No easy answer.
Leaders just need to be transparent about how this incentivizes work.
@myhandle You have it backwards.
It is very hard to trust people without boundaries on their empathy. If someone says yes to every imposition, their yes is meaningless.
@justalexoki Blue pushers have no boundaries, get pushed around and believe everyone is an asshole.
Red pushers have boundaries, healthy relationships and pretty much love everyone.
@waitbutwhy Blue pushers have no boundaries, get pushed around and believe everyone is an asshole.
Red pushers have boundaries, healthy relationships and pretty much love everyone.
@iky_fwjett Yes.
This is so simple. Stop believing you have him and the story figured out. You had already decided he didn't care. I wonder why he's defensive?
Marriages are long. Stay curious about him. Try asking him if he's okay what happens this morning, then say "I'm sad because..."
@NasheCeezet_zw Time for a new doctor.
You said he's always late. So he's always losing patients.
Doctors got a patient survival rate from the middle ages.
Change that review to 0 stars.
@mirandanover Most people have no clue how to rest.
They think numbing their feelings is relaxing and they do this with busyness, both real and fake.
Take a hot bath.
Walk in the woods.
Lie on a beach.
Watch a movie.
Read a trashy book.