Makena

💻 Executive Assistant

[👑S.A.L.A.K.O🕊 @UnkleAyo]

Dear men,

It impresses upon my soul to write to you.

This writing is inspired by my consumption of a lot of Diogenes' work but one quote of his that massively influenced my value system, reads:

"It is the privilege of the gods to want nothing, and of godlike men to want little".

It imprinted upon my soul for a long time, especially as someone that's ambitious.

Friends, verily I say unto you:

Ambition is good but nothing is more frustrating to a man that for him to exist at the edge of a precipice where there are more factors out of his control, than within his control.

Endless chase in ambition without a defined scope is outside your control & with every season you have a new high to chase without a moment to enjoy where you are.

It becomes easy to discard your present as a valley as you glare at a new high, forgetting that your current valley used to be a mountaintop you aspired to.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is, have a number in mind. Especially as an ambitious person, have a number in mind.

The endless pursuit of ambition will leave you with a hollow soul. It will strip you of the beauty of momentary happiness, satisfaction of wins & incredible undervaluation of how far you've come.

As a young hustling man, it is important that you define what happiness and success looks like for you, and to do so early on.

The ultimate question now becomes:
Are you in control of your dreams? Or are your dreams in control of you?

The answer to this question is a predictor of your future happiness or lack thereof.

I hope my writing found you well.

As you were.

[Whemïmor @hy_wemmy]

Some people spent so much of their lives trying to survive that they never got the chance to learn how to swim, speak a foreign language, play an instrument, travel, or simply explore life beyond work and responsibilities. That’s a side of poverty we rarely talk about.

[Makena @themakena_]

@KaganTech @TCL_Nigeria Awww so cute ☺️

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

“if you see your friend with your enemy, be sure that both are your enemy. One openly, the other secretly.”

— unknown

[Makena @themakena_]

@KaganTech 🤣

[Makena @themakena_]

@KaganTech 🥹

[👑S.A.L.A.K.O🕊 @UnkleAyo]

I used to be very 'embarrassed' to acknowledge how sexual compatibility ranked on my tick list.

That spell ended some years ago.

It is important that incoming calls from my partner generates erection - that's my current barest minimum for sexual compatibility.

[Brown sugar🦢 @bigmissbrownnn]

I have an attitude and you’re giving me SPACE???
What happened to putting me on your lap and kissing me?

[Rene🧚🫧 @sheisafairyyy]

I think the most honest version of 'i love you' is 'i noticed.' i noticed you went quiet. i noticed you changed your hair. i noticed you laughed differently today. i noticed & i didn't need you to explain.

[Makena @themakena_]

@KaganTech 😂

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

“Better to love an old man who knows what is love, and not love a lad, who flits around like a hummingbird.”

— Spanish Proverb

[‘deola. @deyola_a]

I genuinely admire single people. I’m not talking about the ones who are single and miserable about it but the ones who are single and actually living. Focusing on themselves, building their lives, enjoying their own company and not settling just to say they have someone. That takes a lot of self awareness and confidence. In a world that constantly makes you feel like you need to be in a relationship to be whole, choosing to wait for the right thing is actually really brave. I have so much respect for that. 🤍

[Greater Tomorrow International College @gticng]

Temojo Newton has just advanced to the quarterfinals of the ongoing Scripps National Spelling Bee in Washington DC, United States.

He is the only African speller left in the competition!

#gtic #spellingbee #nigerianschools #fyp

https://t.co/b6QQvs7UID

[AY🪵 @Agonizo_mai]

I think everyone should be with someone they truly find impressive. To me, one of the greatest forms of romance is that genuine awe.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

True generational wealth is being excited to come home to your partner after a long day.

[Makena @themakena_]

@MaryRoseMalomo @JustDrexx3 @gticng Oh wow! 🤭 fellow alumni here

[Dura,coco money🎀🇦🇷🇦🇷🇦🇷🇦🇷 @ms0nigghaz]

Sometimes I think what we mistake for wanting a relationship is actually just craving connection. Wanting someone you can always call and they’ll gladly pick up. Someone that checks on you, wants to hear your voice as much as you want to hear theirs. Those random conversations, late night calls, laughing over nothing, telling someone about your day, feeling emotionally close to someone… sometimes that’s really all you’re craving.

Not necessarily the pressure of a relationship itself, but the comfort of having “your person.” Someone you can talk to effortlessly, be vulnerable with, and feel emotionally safe around. Maybe that’s why a lot of us think we want relationships so badly, when deep down we just miss connection, consistency, closeness, and being genuinely cared for.

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

Three Lessons From Ancient Greek Philosopher Aristotle on Friendship

1. Friendship is reciprocal and recognized
The first lesson comes from Aristotle’s definition of friendship: reciprocal, recognized goodwill. In contrast to parenthood or siblinghood, friendship exists only if it is acknowledged by both parties. It is not enough to wish someone well; they have to wish you well in return, and you must both recognize this mutual goodwill. As Aristotle puts it: “To be friends … [the parties] must feel goodwill for each other, that is, wish each other’s good, and be aware of each other’s goodwill.”

2. Three kinds of friendship

Consider next Aristotle’s distinction between three kinds of friendship: utility-based, pleasure-based and character-based friendships. Each arises from what is valued in the friend: their usefulness, the pleasure of their company or their good character.

While character-based friendship is the highest form, you can have only a few such intimate friends. It takes a long time to get to know someone’s character, and you have to spend a lot of time together to maintain such a friendship. Since time is a limited resource, most friendships will be based on pleasure or utility.

3. Friendship is like fitness
Finally, Aristotle has something valuable to say about what makes friendships last. He claims that a friendship, like fitness, is a state or disposition that must be maintained by activity: As fitness is maintained by regular exercise, so friendship is maintained by doing things together. What happens, then, when you and your friend cannot engage in friendship activities? Aristotle writes:

“Friends who are … parted are not actively friendly, yet have the disposition to be so. For separation does not destroy friendship absolutely, though it prevents its active exercise. If however the absence be prolonged, it seems to cause the friendly feeling itself to be forgotten.”

[Ụlọma @ulxma]

All the extra extra shock and moral panic whenever women do something even slightly morally reprehensible exist because you have been conditioned to see us as obligatory saints when we’re not. My feminism recognises women as morally complex human beings capable of good and bad, and socialisation is why the consequences are disproportionately harsher for us. If we were truly morally superior, you would cede leadership positions to us — domestically and professionally — but you won’t because you know it’s all just a mechanism of control. No true equality until we undo this dehumanising construct so men can stop using ‘nature’ as an excuse to do all sorts of evil while punishing women more harshly for the same shit they feel entitled to do.

There is nothing special about men that makes their pain a global emergency while ours is treated as an afterthought. Claiming not to be emotional beings but stinking up the place with tears and bullets when they get their feelings hurt, even when they drew first blood? Cry me a fucking river.