Nick Neve

Soulful Relationship Guide | Using Psychology & Human Design to help you build authentic relationships, embrace your true self, succeed in business & thrive

[Nick Neve @thenickneve]

Don't judge a person by a photo.

You may think this version of me has it all figured out

This couldn't be further from the truth.

I remember that guy well.

This picture was taken 12 years ago, just a week before I got my first, and last DUI

I had 10 drinks at a party, hooked up with one of the hottest girls there, and then crashed my car into a tree while driving home alone later that night.

As the car hit the tree, I passed out on impact and woke up to the cops knocking on my driver's side window at 2am.

The rest is history.

Here's the 'CliffsNotes' version of my story and how I overcame common obstacles that slow us all down:

I grew up sheltered and restricted in a small town with 7k people.

I had absolutely no idea how big the world really was.

I thought Catholicism was the only religion and didn't even question all the other beliefs out there—I just assumed they were wrong.

I thought a business degree was the only thing that could make money because that's what my whole family believed.

Everything was pretty much average throughout my childhood until one day I made a bold move and decided I wanted to study acting in college instead of business

I was terrified of performing, but a powerful fire inside me would not let me quit—It forced me forward no matter how big the obstacles in front of me were.

Despite my fears and many failures in the acting world, I stayed in the game until one day after 3 years of incessant grinding, everything changed..

What was the million dollar moment exactly?

One day, I got so worked up during an acting exercise that something inside me exploded.

I threw a metal folding chair into a wall and watched the legs stick right in.

The entire class stood up and erupted in applause, but I didn't hear any of it.

I was too distracted with the change that was happening inside me.

A flashback took over my mind.

I felt my head expanding far beyond what I thought was possible and a review of my past came rushing into my mind like an old film strip moving at light speed.

In those brief moments, my whole life made sense.

I realized:

• The heavy limits I had put on myself for over 20 years

• The bubble I had confined myself to

• The limiting beliefs I had that held me back

• The narrow path that I thought was the only one

I've heard people say: "everything is possible" but in this moment I actually FELT it. That's when you know it's real.

So what had awoken inside me?

Awareness and a clarity that was beyond refreshing. My views began to shift almost instantly.

I realized the negative side of "working for Hollywood", and felt that acting wasn't about fame for me, but instead a journey to uncover my authentic self.

I didn't want to be confined within Hollywood as an actor.

I didn't want an agent telling me where I had to be and at what time.

I didn't want to spend 12+ hours on a hot, grueling film set just because someone else said that's how art is made.

I began acting to inspire change in people through the roles I played.

I believed acting was my only path to inspire others. Now I see countless ways to make a difference.

My acting training was hell but it helped me:

• Challenge societal norms

• Develop critical thinking

• Enhance listening and communication skills

• Improve an understanding of human behavior

• Cultivate empathy and compassion for others

Just when I thought I was out of the weeds, another curve ball came whizzing in.

My parents filed for divorce on a whim, which was a complete shock because I actually thought our family was thriving.

Little did I know all our family problems were being kept from me.

My parents' relationship failed due to poor communication and unwillingness to improve.

The lack of understanding, compassion, and empathy in their relationship meant I also grew up without these crucial relationship skills.

So I set out with the commitment to learn effective communication, especially with women, to avoid repeating my parents' mistakes.

I spent thousands of hours over a 15 year period reading books about relationships, asking women and men lots of questions, and learning the core principles that keep a healthy marriage.

One of the most fascinating things I realized about relationships is that: change doesn't start with the other person but rather with ourselves.

I also wanted to learn how to have strong connections with people and build a friend circle I was proud of.

I traveled around the world, got acquainted with different cultures, and spoke to as many different types of people as possible.

I asked them about:

• Their top relationship values

• Their most effective contributions to friendships

• Key trust-building qualities for strong relationships

All of these experiences over a 15 year period helped me understand how big the world really was and what I wanted out of life. These experiences also helped me understand other people and what their common problems were.

Interestingly enough, I came to the conclusion that 90% of people have the same problems.

What are they?

• Feeling misunderstood

• Hesitating due to fear

• Stress and exhaustion

• Isolation and uninspiring connections

Helping people through these painful moments has become my life's work.

Fast forward to today, I love the lifestyle I'm living.

I've met an incredible lady who just happens to be a therapist and we're engaged to be married after 6 happy years together.

Communication has become the backbone of our relationship.

Even though we've been through some incredibly difficult times together (COVID included) our foundation is strong and there's nothing we can't conquer together, as long as we're willing to communicate with each other.

All of this led me to achieving my dream career:

Working with clients to improve their core relationship with themselves and connections with others. I use my experience to provide personalized coaching that inspires change, and growth.

A lot of the work we do together involves overcoming common problems such as:

• Work-life balance

• Time Management

• Relationship challenges

• Optimizing Health & Wellness

It all starts from being able to understand people, what their needs are, and being able to communicate effectively.

This has becomes my life's work.

Alcohol is no longer a part of my life and I'm grateful for the sobriety.

Sometimes, the catastrophes that plague us can seem like "the end".

But usually they can spark great change if we look at them in the right way.

Oftentimes we tend to be grateful for these events in the future because they were the catalyst that ignited change.

Imagine for a moment looking at life from the perspective that life happens FOR us, not TO us.

Everything that happens is a lesson trying to push us in the right direction to get the most out of life

If we live life from that lens, we see that we are no longer the victim.

But rather, on a journey to learn and experience everything we need to know in order to live a fulfilling life.

Life becomes a teacher, and we become eternally grateful for the painful moments. Their existence offers us a signal.

They exist to inspire us to change and become our best selves.

Without them, we become lost in comfort and ultimately end up dissatisfied.

The takeaway?

Embrace life's challenges as opportunities for growth, and you'll transform from a victim of circumstance into the author of your own fulfilling story.

[Nick Neve @thenickneve]

@TeamYouTube thanks for replying

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@TeamYouTube My Shorts suddenly stopped getting Shorts Feed distribution. I historically got hundreds/1K+ views, but multiple recent Shorts have received 0 views/0 feed exposure. Original content, no strikes/restrictions. Can you check @nickneve22 for a distribution issue?

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@Strategy @saylor Thanks for adding 20k to my retirement account t last year. Sold mstr at 350

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@Vivek4real_ A drug deal

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@GiovanniIncasa @gerovich Just bought shares today at 11

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@elonmusk Dude stop crashing your own stock. Some of us don’t have billions and actually care about making money.

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@GavinNewsom And will you rebuild the forests with that 787 mil? Nope…

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@GiovanniIncasa You did it again man! Wow! 🤩

[Nick Neve @thenickneve]

Looking to feel better on the inside?

First Ask Yourself…

How much time do I actually take for myself? Is the majority of my day focused on taking care of others?

Taking care of others can feel so good, but we can’t forget to give ourselves time and care as well. The relationship we have with ourselves on the inside is the most important.

I used to dedicate almost every waking hour of my day towards serving the needs of other people. You see, I used to be a property manager and had tenants calling me with all sorts of problems and needs throughout the day. Some of them were retired and just wanted to talk🤣

I felt good helping them but at the end of each day I felt so drained and disconnected from myself that I didn’t know how to recharge and do something nice for myself.

The feeling of frustration and bitterness just overpowered me and I began to resent the very people I was helping. What happened next?

I would begin to direct that resentment towards them, actually making them feel worse, which was the opposite of what I wanted to do.😦

So what did I learn from this?🤔

If you want to show up properly for others, you must take care of your own needs first. this shows your inner self that you care about your own well-being. Just like spending time helping other people nurture your relationship with them, spending time with yourself builds trust from within and helps you feel better about yourself.

The takeaway?

The strong, loving new you that you create for yourself will be able to have a much larger impact on everyone else around you, increasing the value you can provide for everyone. It all starts with you.

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@Cobratate same could be said for all of us. It's our duty to play this game alone

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@Markomantrax me either... one wife is enough 😂

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@innoutburger_ if you don't want to get left behind.... yes...

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@GiovanniIncasa El Salvador gonna be rich af!

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@elonmusk I thought for a moment you were comparing Netflix to cocaine and thought.... Now that's pretty spot on!

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@VigilantFox Ehh this one just didn’t take for me

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Dr. Rangan Chatterjee is a respected NHS doctor and bestselling author who helps patients improve their health through simple, sustainable lifestyle changes rather than just prescribing medication.

Every morning he asks himself 3 solid questions which have made profound strides with his self-growth.

I’ve been experimenting with this for the last week and am amazed how much more present it makes me throughout the entire day.

I’d like to share these questions with you:

• What is the most important thing I have to do today? This question helps you focus on what matters and make better decisions.

• What am I grateful for? This question can help you appreciate your life.

• Which quality do I want to showcase to the world today? This question can help you identify and develop the qualities you want to highlight.

I hope you give this a try and see the same results that I have!

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@notadvice I’d rather pull weeds outside

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A young boy in Singapore was ashamed of his father

His father was poor and unsuccessful, even though he seemed to work harder than all the other fathers out there.

The boys father did his best to teach his son about money.

Each week, his father would give him some spending money as an allowance.

But after giving him the money, he would ask the boy to put a small amount in a jar for “taxes” to prepare him for how the world worked as an adult.

The boy’s father would then add some of his own money to the jar to show his son that he paid taxes too.

One day, the boy asked his father why they were not rich.

His father smiled and replied:

“Who says we are not rich? Being rich is not how much you have, but how much you can give. Somehow when you give, you’ll be happier.”

The boy did not understand this.

He didn’t feel happy..

All he knew was that he wanted to grow up to be more successful than his father.

The boy became a young man, and decided to leave home for a better life.

His father tried to send money, but his son refused. He wanted to become the man his father never was, without his help.

As years passed, the young mans father called him often to check-in.

He wanted his son to come back and visit

But his son told him he was too busy with work, and didn’t have the time.

His father was sad, but knew there was nothing he could do.

One day, his son got a letter in the mail from a charity thanking him for a substantial donation.

The letter also included an invitation that insisted he come visit in person so they could thank him personally.

When the young man arrived, he told the director that there must be some mistake and that he didn't make a donation.

The director said she would explain everything as she led him to a room.

Inside the room, the boy saw a group of disabled children who instantly became excited when they saw him.

"I have something I would like to tell you", the director said.

"Your father has told these children so much about you. He always makes them forget about their problems, and reminds them of their hopes and dreams. He's been coming here for years and is the only one who can put a smile on their faces".

The director showed him some pictures of his father, dressed up in a clown costume, entertaining all the children

You see, your father could have retired comfortably, but he chose to continue working so he could help even more people.

He was truly a selfless man

She stopped for a moment, the smile left her face...

"It's just that he didn't tell anyone about his illness"

The director handed the young man a folder of receipts from all the donations.

He noticed they were in his name.

Suddenly he began to put the pieces together.

His father had donated the "tax" money they had put in the jar all those years when he was a child.

That night the boy returned to his old home, knelt down near a picture of his father and began to sob.

He realized that what his father said all those years about being rich really was true.

"Being rich is not about how much you have, but about how much you can give"

The young man found his father's clown costume in a chest in their home and that day he made a big decision.

The next day, he showed up dressed in the costume to surprise all the children.

He felt a sense of fulfillment for the first time in a long time.

He saw the children erupt with excitement.

It was as if his father never left.

[Nick Neve @thenickneve]

Deciding to go for a walk without your phone or headphones is one of the most undervalued activities of 2025

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Wise words from Dan Koe. “Not having enough time” is a feeling, not a fact like our mind tells us. There’s always time if it’s important enough. 😌