Remain in perpetual transit. The road favors the nomad. If you strive on, you'll eventually meet your luck. Push, hunt. If you kill the buffalo, your hunger ends. If the buffalo kills you, your hunger ends. You either win or your troubles end with you. There's no loss either way.
To get stable, outearn your spending. It don't matter how much you make; if you spend as much, you'll always be left with little–no fluid funds unless you're spending on appreciating assets or long-term investments. Seek multiple sources of income no matter how little they bring.
One soldier that survived a Boko Haram ambush lost one of his legs. He said they hit an IED while on a mission and some died, others injured. He lost one leg and had to crawl away from the site. Shortly after, Boko Haram came and were using knife to slaughter the remaining soldiers. He said where he hid he was hearing soldiers crying. Till date he can't sleep properly. These are the people Nigerian government is rehabilitating and pushing back into the security web? OMO! How?
The biggest online infohazard for men right now is that if a girl is genuinely into you, you don't have to do ANY of this stuff, you can take her to a bar, make her pay for every other round, and she'll still sleep with you after 3 hours of knowing you, hell she'll pay for your uber home after, all of these stupid hoops they invent for men to jump through simply Do Not Apply to the men they actually want to fuck, and that's not good for most men to know
You'll tell a woman liking you that you're not good for her but she'll disagree and even accuse you or not thinking the best of yourself. Oya now, you'll see.
Deep sigh.
This was 2015.
I was in this meeting.
I remember it very vividly.
Sat in the 3rd or 4th row in front.
After all these “revelations”, me and my then HOTR friends Omoye & Mairo Ese met up at another older HOTR family friends’ house (I think it was that same day in the evening) and we discussed hearing this Damina sermon—it was the first time we were ever coming across him.
There was another elderly man in the house that day, a relative of the home owners. He didn’t seem the “very spiritual type”, simple regular straight shooter guy.
He simply laughed at the “God does not live in Heaven rhema” and said “that man is teaching nonsense. The first sentence of the Lord’s Prayer, is it not ‘Our Father who art heaven’?”
Everyone went quiet.
The foolishness of what had excited so many of us was laid bare, smacking us right in our faces.
Yes, God created the heavens—if He can create man and dwell in that same man, creating heaven as a home for Himself to dwell with His creations is an easy thing for Him to do.
He himself said heaven is his throne.
The fact that in the chase for deeper revelations we miss what really matters shows why God was not in the thunder or the earthquake but was in the still small voice.
a bitter opinion: almost all ur friends will low-key try to do everything in their capacity to stop u from outgrowing them. this is the norm. Don't build ur life around uncertain exceptions.
To get stable, outearn your spending. It don't matter how much you make; if you spend as much, you'll always be left with little–no fluid funds unless you're spending on appreciating assets or long-term investments. Seek multiple sources of income no matter how little they bring.
If she prays for you, it opens doors for you
Whenever she’s angry at you, things start getting difficult for you
If you give her money and she’s happy with you, you start experiencing financial breakthrough
She’s your spiritual backbone and you don’t joke with her prayers because anything she says, God answers.
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Now you’re a serial cheater, they said she should ‘put you in prayers’ so you can stop your cheating ways🤓🤓 she gets angry and says you can never change and starts threatening to leave…
Suddenly your ‘spiritual pillar’ knows prayer doesn’t work that way🤓
Suddenly ‘anything she says, God answers’ becomes a myth.🤡
Listen to me…
In any form of togetherness between a Nigerian Man and a Nigerian Woman…
8 out of 10, the Man is the FOOLISH one.
The problem is the lack of alignment by men & women on the core purpose of the early dates.
Broadly speaking, there's two frameworks on what the purpose is:
1) To ascertain general chemistry/attraction/vibe, to see if it's worth spending more time with each other and have sex.
Most men adopt this view. The early dates are a vibe check. When the woman also has this view, there's general congruence.
The problem arises when women say they want to date "intentionally," to find a genuine long-term partner but at the same time demand fancy dates and investment. Finding out whether there's potential for a long-term relationship - attraction, values, lifestyle, etc. - does not require fancy dates. The venue or activity is not the point: it's about finding out more about the other person.
Hence, when women insist on this, they are implicitly accepting the second view of the purpose of the early dates: 2) the dates are a form of implied transaction & a way to gauge the guy's money/status.
When this happens, the guy is right to ask: so in return for the investment & meeting your demands, what do I get out of this? After all, a transaction can only be successful when both parties get what they want.
Women will retort by saying "well he shouldn't expect anything in return but he should do it to appreciate my presence and to demonstrate what type of partner he will be." The problem is that an investment only makes sense if it generates an ROI for the one making the investment. It would be insanely irresponsible for a guy (even a wealthy one) to spend thousands of dollars on the first few dates simply because the woman demanded it, without knowing what the tangible benefit to him is.
I don't have a clean solution to this. I certainly do not think men should outright demand sex for dates. I also think women's demands on men they barely know is asinine and only hurting them.
1. Perfume business for 5 apartments. Dollar to Naira exchange rate
2. You left his house, but he should be the one to call you
3. You asked that you both go your separate ways but he should be the one to 'make it work'
4. You speak with a fake accent and wear a nose ring. You're a pum seller
5. You're on the internet asking not just strangers but women to advice you on whether to divorce your husband😂
See what Nigerian men are marrying, dawg.😩💔
But why am I surprised?
That said, remember that every story a woman tells accusing a man, is a lie. It is not a question of whether or not she is lying, but of how much of what she is saying is a lie.
I envy people, wallahi. Their own no pass sex, wig, food, sex toy and IPhone. Nothing else concern them for this country as long as men dey fuc and pay. 💔🤦♀️