“Whenever you think that some situation or some person is ruining your life, it’s actually you who are ruining your life. It’s such a simple idea. Feeling like a victim is a perfectly disastrous way to make go through life.”
— Charlie Munger
@DarrigoMelanie Another retarded uneducated stupid woman, running, her, mouth. SHUT UP! These people are crazy, is it so impossible to believe that men cannot be women? lol I cannot believe this is a point of contention. Women’s empathy is a killer.
@bodyfastapp “Without exercise” shut up! Lazy ass people desperate for money and attention, even if you are correct, lol sets a bad and often unsustainable way OF LIFESTYLE, to everyone, get off your ass, WALK, workout, eat calorically within range = lose weight
20 rules for young men:
1. Never date a friend’s ex
2. It’s ok to go to the movies by yourself
3. Hygiene is more important than you think
4. Know the different between love and lust
5. Stay informed on what’s going on. Don’t be a sheep
6. Have a sense of humor but don’t joke about your dreams and goals
7. Study the types of people who upset you and why
8. Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once.
9. Don’t bully people weaker than you
10. Learn how to tell stories
11. Don’t complain. 80% of people don’t care about your problems and 20% are glad you have them
12. Be impressed by the things that matter
13. When coming across a successful person, talk less, ask more.
14. Leave a lasting impression after people meet you
15. Don’t feel guilty for being too ambitious
16. Be mentally and emotionally ready to lose loved ones at some point of your life.
17. Always have some cash with you
18. Regardless of what you get paid per hour, give your best.
19. Avoid porn at all cost.
20. You never marry a girl, you marry her entire family.
Jordan Peterson: "The most dangerous person is one who is articulate"
"Articulate is an interesting word. If your joints are articulated, that means you can do things with them because they're not one solid vague mass. They're differentiated. Someone who's graceful is compelling because they're articulated. And speech is a form of articulation in that manner."
Peterson explains why this matters:
"It is definitely the case that there is no more exceptional form of the capacity to be dangerous than to be articulate. And one of the things that really shocks me is that young men in particular are never taught this."
He makes the case bluntly:
"Do you want to be competent and dangerous, or do you want to be vague and useless? Because those are your options. And I don't care what your job is. If you're a plumber, and I have great respect for plumbers, and you're articulate: you can negotiate with your clients, introduce your co-workers, make a case for your employees, advertise your services, think through your problems. You're firing on all cylinders."
Peterson shares a deeper truth:
"Our whole culture is based on the idea of the supremacy of the word. The idea that it is the word itself that extracts habitable order from chaos and possibility. And the reason our culture is predicated on that is because it's a deep truth."
He gives an example from the military:
"I know a former special operations soldier, Jocko Willink. He's about four feet wide and three feet thick. One tough son of a bitch. You don't want to mess with him. And he knows perfectly well, and is very capable of articulating, that his success as an eminent warrior is in no small part dependent on his ability to communicate."
Peterson explains why:
"Because he could communicate well, he could listen to the men under his command. Because he was articulate, he could explain to his superiors the situation on the ground. Because he was articulate, he could make a case that the men under his command who were deserving would be promoted. Because he could think in an articulate manner, he could plan strategically and not lose battles."
He asks the hard question:
"What's the alternative? You want to be inarticulate? You want to say 'uh' and 'like' and 'um' and pause and stumble? Be unable to formulate a strategy? Be unable to elucidate a vision? Be unable to compel and convince other people to entice them with your articulated vision of what might be? You would choose awkwardness over grace. It's preposterous. It's beyond foolish."
How do you become articulate?
Peterson offers a metaphor:
"Imagine you're trying to walk across a swamp. The swamp is murky, but you know there's a path of stone under the water, and it twists and moves. If you stay on the path, you won't drown. The crocodiles won't devour you. As you walk forward, you feel with your next step where the stone might be. Then you feel it solid. Then you take that step. You search and find out what's solid, and you move forward in that manner."
He applies this to speech:
"That's what you do with your words. You feel, is this the right word? Is the fact that I'm uttering it putting me together and making me intact and stronger? Or is it tearing me apart and making me dissolute and weak? You can learn to do that."
Peterson shares what he noticed 40 years ago:
"Much of what I said actually made me feel weak. I didn't know why exactly. But sometimes some of the things I said didn't have that effect. They weren't accompanied by a sense of shame. They weren't accompanied by a sense of vulnerability. They were solid. At the beginning, that was probably only about 5% of what I said. The rest of it was instrumental — language I was using to get my way. There was an arrogance in my use of language that had to do with the desire to attain proximal victories. To appear smart. To win an argument."
He contrasts that with real articulation:
"A very different idea than merely feeling my way along to see what word was appropriate for what moment. But you can learn to do that. You can listen to yourself. You can stop humming and hawing and using 'like' and 'you know' and fillers. You can take the time necessary to craft your words carefully. You can practice merely saying what you believe to be true. You can read great writers. You can write about the problems that obsess you. And you can become articulate as a consequence."
The power of the pause:
"When you're in a discussion with someone, they might present you with a question or a conundrum. Instead of responding with what you 'know' to be right, you could just ask yourself: what do I actually think about that? But it has to be a real question. It has to be the kind of question you pose to someone you didn't know. It has to be a question predicated on the idea that you might not know who you are, and that you could ask."
Peterson continues:
"Someone presents you with a question. You think: okay, what do I think about that? But you have to want to know the answer. And then the answer will make itself known because that's how thought works. And then you can just communicate that answer."
He explains what happens next:
"If you do that, you'll be interesting right away. You'll be interesting to the person you're talking to. And if they do that to you, they'll be interesting too. And then if you both do that, you'll have an interesting conversation. And if you have an interesting conversation, you'll both grow as a consequence. That's actually the pathway to growth."
Peterson uses Joe Rogan as an example:
"One of the reasons Joe Rogan is so successful is that that's what Joe does. He just asks questions. He isn't trying to get something from his guests. He's not trying to become more famous. He doesn't need any more money. There's no instrumental utilization of language in his discourse. He's just a humble lunkhead in the most profound sense who would like to know more than he knows, and who asks all the stupid questions he can think up."
He continues:
"It turns out he's actually very smart and very well educated now, after talking to hundreds of people and listening. The stupid questions he asks aren't stupid. They're questions shared by virtually everyone who's listening. He takes his listeners along on this process of exploratory endeavor. And it's the pathway to success."
Peterson closes with this:
"The same thing can be true of your life. If you're guided by the spirit of honest inquiry and every word you say is reflective of what you believe to be the truth, then the pathway that you walk on is a golden pathway to success. I know that to be true."
Jordan Peterson drops a brutal truth:
Pay ruthless attention to every word you say.
Notice how it feels in your body.
If it feels solid — built on rock — you’re speaking truth.
If it feels shaky, you’re probably being expedient.
You can scheme and plot your way through life doing what’s convenient…
or you can say what you actually believe to be true and take the consequences.
That choice is the fundamental call to responsibility.
Simple in theory. Brutal in practice.
When was the last time you chose truth over convenience?
El Salvador was one of the most dangerous countries in the world
Now it’s one of the safest in the Americas
You can just.. arrest the criminals and crime goes away