Can’t lie to you. If you don’t make a move, you will see literal clowns race past you. Clowns.
Nothing concern life with ‘I am a smart, educated, experienced person’.
You don’t act, you remain there.
My own is, a partner that will misbehave will misbehave even if they stay in their room all day. I’m so big on letting people be, so big on people making their decisions without influencing it except when asked. We need to actually learn to stop controlling people either subtle or not.