Tim Howard

Father, son, brother, grandpa, adoptee

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

Telling my story is never easy. I’m tired of being dismissed, pitied, misunderstood, and told I am wrong about my own experience as an #adoptee. I speak only so the next generation of #adopted children see that it can be done. #naam #wehavethefloor

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

I miss my moms. Not slang. Plural.
My first Substack post is up. Link: https://t.co/C44DrXEdub
#adoption #adoptee #greif

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

So many of my own experience, thoughts, and feelings in this thread.

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

She used to play dolls with great grandpa everyday. Yesterday was the first day she touched them in over a month and today she asked me to play. We’ll take improvement anywhere we can find it. #grief #familyiseverything #itllgetbetter

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

@AdrianJones_me I was asking myself this same question just days ago. Whose footsteps can we follow? Are there mentors or even good examples, and if not, who will step out to be one?

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

@maaason Writing prep

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

Over the last five years, I've learned it's much healthier to acknowledge and accept the painful pieces as well. Accepting each side doesn't diminish the significance of other. It's all my #truth
#nationalsiblingsday #Adoption #adopted #adoptee

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

On Tuesday, April 29, 2014, I found out that I have siblings when I found our mother's obituary online. Since that day, there has not been a single day that I don't think of my brothers Keith and AJ, and sister Angi.
#nationalsiblingsday #Adoption #adopted #adoptee

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

There's a lot of painful, negative emotions around this that most people try to dismiss completely and focus only on the relationship I continue to have with Keith, Angi and the rest of my family that I love being a part of.
#nationalsiblingsday #Adoption #adopted #adoptee

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

I live in the estrogen ocean, and I’m totally cool with it. #thegirls #danceparty https://t.co/QSxE9ugJlf

[Adrian Jones @AdrianJones_me]

@1966adoptee @AbbyForeroHilty Yes! People assume that once I was in reunion my story ended when in fact it had only just begun. It unfolds every day.

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

As an #adoptee I have a lot to be grateful for. Too much for one tweet, so here it is in a blog post. #Adoption #AdoptionAwarenessMonth

https://t.co/f1sisYjtXq

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

@Karen_Pickell The word grateful makes my stomach turn no matter the context. It takes effort on my part to make it stop, either by thinking of things that I actually am grateful for or repeating to myself that my reaction is not rational.

[Adoptee Rights Law @adopteelaw]

1/ November is a month filled with “adoption awareness.” And for all of you who are "touched" by adoption and personally know an adult adopted person within your family or circle of friends, I ask you to do one thing:

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

@Karen_Pickell It's very difficult to connect to anyone else if you are constantly wondering who you are. Adoption has kept me disconnected from myself. It's only in recent years that I've been able to recognize the trauma and begin dealing with it in healthier ways.

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

@Karen_Pickell Home is a nice idea that I'm trying to find for myself. I wrote a short piece that touched on it when I returned from meeting my family for the first time. The last paragraph is still very relevant. https://t.co/DlBg3tSO2h

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

#BeingAdoptedMeans One of the saddest and most beautiful things ever was my sister telling me how she was always trying to find me in crowds, looking for faces that looked like family and wondering "is that him?" #adoption #adopteevoice

[Angry Adoptee Sadé Marie @LittleMorbid13]

An amputee may not have expertise equal to a surgeon or doctors but what they are experts on is how it feels to be an amputee, the trauma that comes from what they have lost, and the struggles they face day to day. No one will know these things better than the person who lived it

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

@llmunro @bgstordahl @Karen_Pickell @TerriVanech "Your mother loved you so much that she...". In hindsight it's easy to see where my patterns came from. The only way to show that you really love me is to leave. Love is not real without abandonment, betrayal, pain...

[Tim Howard @timothylhoward]

I wish that when I was in high school I had the sense of self and courage to speak that @ameliafreeman_ shows in this thread about #adoption. Honestly, I wish I had it consistently now. Never stop speaking up! Be someone else's inspiration

[Amelia Freeman @ameliafreeman_]

To adoptees: I am in high school and we are currently reading The Kite Runner in my English class and of course, there happens to be an infertile couple that is considering adoption. So my teacher decides to have a class discussion about it...