In the final days of your life will you want to hug your degree or car? Will you find comfort in reading your bank statement; or wish you'd spent more time in the office? No, what will matter is people. If relationships will matter most then, shouldn't they matter most now?
The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not the wedding chapel, church or synagogue. It's a choice you make, not just on your wedding day, but everyday ... over and over again. That choice is reflected in the way you treat your spouse every day.
I am [M34] and my wife is [F29]. She has asked me to pay her almost $50,000 to have our child, and I'm not quite sure what to do. https://t.co/1yAug8ZnkN
Five simple rules for a Healthy Marriage:
1. Loyalty to your spouse.
2. Respect for your spouse
3. Love for your spouse.
4. Forgive your spouse.
5. Treat your spouse like you're still trying to win them.
Most people cheat on a relationship when they start paying more attention to what they think they're missing ... rather than focusing on what they already have. If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it's time to water your own yard.
More marriages die of neglect than of anything else. Thinking, "We are in love, and that will take care of everything" is a dangerous philosophy. The simple truth is … if you want a happy marriage, you're going to have to work at it.
If your spouse's love language is
𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
Try:
•leaving encouraging notes
•sharing sentiments for their successes/ struggles
•compliments
•words of appreciation
Avoid:
•emotionally harsh words
•not appreciating their efforts
If your spouse's love language is
𝐀𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐎𝐟 𝐒𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞
Try:
•showing rather then telling
•helping with stressful/ time consuming tasks
•looking for small ways to help them
Avoid:
•ignoring requests for help
•not following through on promises