In selecting a kind partner, remember not to date people who esteem money and things money can buy above human relationship. You mistakenly stain their cloth for an event and they want to rip your head off. Their phone slipped from your hand and they curse you with everything above and beneath heaven or even tear you a slap. Something happened to their laptop while you were using it and you never hear the last of it about how much it cost and how clumsy you are. Run oooo. Date people who are empathetic and genuinely kind. People who understand mistakes and not kill you for it.
Years ago in 300 level, I saw a lady crying outside my hostel in company of her friends who were consoling her. She was shaking and crying that her boyfriend will kill her. Why? His iPad fell from her hands. My friend I was walking with said "Ahhhh, you know how much be iPad? Omo." I told him that iPad might be costly but it is just an iPad and the iPad is not the problem here, it is the relationship. Nobody should be this terrified of their partner. If she is cryng that he will kill her, there is a much deeper underlying problem. He probably beats her on a norm. It couldn't have been deliberate. It could have slipped from anybody.
I often say that if your partner drives your car out and they bashed it, your first reaction should be whether they are okay and take them to the hospital for a test. It is just a car. You cannot esteem a car over your partner's life. You can always fix it or buy a new one - no matter how long it takes. In a manner of speaking, you need to focus on people who are genuinely kind as a personality. Those are the ones who can be actually kind in relationship because you can't give what you don't have. Factor that in when choosing a partner.
In 400l a hostel mate borrowed my phone to receive some files and it slipped from his hand and cracked. He came to me and told me about it and the repairer billed him 14k. I split the bill with him. I knew it was a mistake and how do I expect him to survive if he paid for it alone? I wasnt even sure he had the money. In Law School, I was sleeping but woke up for a moment when I saw my roommate hit my laptop and it fell to the floor. It was a mistake. He thought I was sleeping. He picked it up and he never mentioned it. I didn't either because I saw it was a mistake and I didn't see the point of making a fuss. First time my partner cooked for me, she wanted to cook the stew the way I cooked mine to make me happy but she wasn't sure it came out the way it was supposed to. I just laughed and told her that it was okay and next time she should cook anything her own way. I want to eat her food. It is her home so she should be free to do things to her taste. I appreciated the meal and kissed her because it was made with love. That is more important than the taste and the cost. She is a very good cook by the way. What is the worse that would have happened? We would have cooked another one or laughed over it.
I gave all these examples because I need you to know it is about personality. Everyone that knows me in person knows I do not have attachment to money or anything money can buy. My belief is that if it costs money, it can be replaced. I have my personal values and humanity is at the very top of it.
I have seen people receive beating or slaps or curses for the most flimsy reason. Many are afraid of their partners. Many people have even told me they are afraid to send a message to their own partner because they fear their reaction. That is not a home of love. The world is cold, home should bring you peace. Your partner is home.
Are you punishing your partner emotionally?
And by emotional punishment, I mean deliberately or arguably unintentionally causing them emotional pain for one reason or the other.
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Stop the stigmatization!!!
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