The last thing I’ll say on this classism discussion in Ghana: there are people who have held wealth and influence for centuries. They have the power to change the circumstances of this country. Neocolonialism is a factor, sure and our politicians are largely useless.
people really act like hurting someone you love is some rare thing only bad people do.
you can hurt people through neglect, avoidance, poor communication, selfishness, broken promises, taking them for granted, or simply not realizing the impact of your actions. human relationships are in fact complicated.
It's so funny how sharing your experiences makes people think you are trying to portray where you are from in a bad light even though all those things actually happened to you.
You are not allowed to talk about it but they were allowed to do it to you?
if you really became a better person after doing me wrong, wouldn’t accountability come with that? wouldn’t an apology be part of the growth? increasing your friendliness isn’t the same thing as addressing what happened. so what exactly are we talking about here?
HAVE YOU EVER MET SOMEONE and just paused like… so nobody ever sat you down and told you about yourself??
Nobody ADDRESSED this behavior?
Because you’re standing there wondering how someone this difficult still has friends and family, and nobody’s ever called it out.
I pay attention to how people choose to treat me. Lack of empathy, consideration, reciprocity, and support is enough for me to end the connection. I don’t overanalyze or beg for clarity. I’m not obligated to stay where I’m not appreciated. I simply adjust accordingly.✍️
You can always tell that a person is never held accountable by the way they engage in conflict in their relationships with other people.
They believe that they’re always right and pride dictates their actions.
the idea abusers love you does NOT start with dating but in childhood
it starts with “accepting” your parents beating you is tough love. its keeping friends who belittle and mistreat you. the brain forms this toxic normalization long before a partner starts their abuse
the way you guys are so reckless with people's emotions is scary.
the complete disregard for your impact on someone you chose to interact with is honestly? so sad.
there is no pride in being dead inside and moving with reckless abandon.
just leave people alone then.
Our parents are being conditioned to think young people are unruly. So that the message that we need to tame our youth sits better than our youth are fighting for us.