My coworker used to take the long way home every night. Two extra bus stops, more walking, more money, more time. One day I asked her why she didnโt just take the shortcut alley behind our building.
She laughed and said, โOh, because a guy followed me there once and told me he could โdo whatever he wantedโ and no one would hear me scream.โ
So now, every night, she calls a male friend and pretends sheโs on the phone with her โboyfriend.โ Sometimes she even laughs loudly and says things like, โYeah, Iโll see you in five minutes, babe,โ even when sheโs completely alone.
Not because she wants attention.
Not because sheโs dramatic.
Because sounding โtakenโ and โprotectedโ is safer than sounding like a woman by herself.
Men cannot even begin to understand the calculations women make every day just to get home alive.
OMGGGG I JUST REMEMBERED THAT TIMOTHรE CHALAMET DIDNโT GET THE SPIDER-MAN ROLE BECAUSE TOM HOLLAND HAD A BALLET BACKGROUND WHICH EVENTUALLY HELPED HIM GET THE ROLE ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ !!
Iโve seen men walk away from 5โ10 year relationships, then turn around and marry a woman theyโve known for 6 months suddenly doing all the things their ex begged for years. Word of advice, stop preaching to these men. They hear you. Heโs just never going to become the man you want him to be because youโre not the woman he wants to be with. People donโt change for love in general, they change for who they truly want.