Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom

Syndicated columnist exploring whether the life you’re building is actually the one you want to wake up in when time runs out.🐝

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Grief shows up on weekends. Nobody warns you about that. The quiet of a Saturday morning. A song on the radio. The smell of something cooking. Suddenly someone you lost is right there again. That is not a setback. That is love with nowhere left to go.

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Grief shows up on weekends. Nobody warns you about that. The quiet of a Saturday morning. A song on the radio. The smell of something cooking. Suddenly someone you lost is right there again. That is not a setback. That is love with nowhere left to go.

[Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom @tomgreenewrites]

Like an undertow, it pulls you under when you least expect it.
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Grief arrives like a summer storm. Sometimes dramatic, with thunder and lightning. Sometimes so subtle you don't notice it until you feel the rain hit your skin.

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Grief, for all its pain, is still evidence. Evidence that someone reached deeply enough into your heart to leave part of themselves in your soul.

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@ElectionCenter_ What if it was your daughter?

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We've become experts at avoiding reminders that our time on earth is fleeting. People "pass" instead of dying. Nobody sits up with the dead in the parlor.

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I like to remember that what I lost was never owed to me in the first place. And when I feel grief, the best response is gratitude.

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@LAChas77 You should read this. https://t.co/GNws3MdP3L

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Grief was never intended to be managed alone. Human connection and hope are essential for navigating deep grief.

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Maybe healing isn't moving on at all. Maybe it's learning to move forward while allowing the fingerprint to remain.
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Grief refuses efficiency. It's not linear or logical. It shows up at the most inopportune times. It's often triggered by simple things: the smell of coffee or perfume or the heavy smell of fresh cut grass.

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Over time, gratitude slowly begins to soften the sharpest edges of that loss. Not because the grief disappears, but because you begin to understand that the pain is connected to something amazing and rare.

[Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom @tomgreenewrites]

What if grief isn't proof that a life ended but instead, proof that a life happened?

[Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom @tomgreenewrites]

I like to remember that what I lost was never owed to me in the first place. And when I feel grief, the best response is gratitude.

[Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom @tomgreenewrites]

There was a time when people understood grief more intimately than we do now. Grief was communal, shared. Death wasn't hidden behind institutional walls or outsourced to pale-faced professionals in cheap suits. It was public and shared.

[Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom @tomgreenewrites]

When I remember that she was a gift, pure and simple, something I neither earned nor deserved nor had a right to. And when I remember that the appropriate response to a gift is gratitude…then it puts some light around the darkness.

[Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom @tomgreenewrites]

Over time, gratitude slowly begins to soften the sharpest edges of that loss. Not because the grief disappears, but because you begin to understand that the pain is connected to something amazing and rare.

[Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom @tomgreenewrites]

Eventually you realize the fingerprint of grief is not a malfunction. It's the new normal. That realization changes things. Because eventually grief stops being only about the person you lost. It becomes about the person you become afterward.

[Tom Greene/Wit & Wisdom @tomgreenewrites]

Grief refuses efficiency. It's not linear or logical. It shows up at the most inopportune times. It's often triggered by simple things: the smell of coffee or perfume or the heavy smell of fresh cut grass.