95% of organizing isn't seen in public: Prepping meeting agendas, setting up folding chairs, arranging rides and childcare, training on theory and practice, evaluating everything. The remaining 5% is only possible if this foundation is sound.
I vaguely recall reading something about how watching porn, for many, is still about control/power and paying for it (which is the ethical thing to do) ruins/disrupts that dynamic? I can't remember exactly what it was but feel this fits in somewhere with that conversation.
My best friend and I do this thing called “trickle down therapy” which is where I tell my best friend stuff my therapist says to me since she’s not in therapy
Adding an X under gender on official documents functionally marks people as non-normative and worthy of extra policing. This is an example of reformism making us both visible and more vulnerable—abolition of gender/sex markers on official documents should always be the demand.
any time you critique an oppressive system, people come to you demanding a perfectly articulated step-by-step plan for creating a flawless alternative system, today. as if the system we are currently locked inside of were meticulously designed from the top down. it wasn't.