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THREAD: How My Friend Was Turned Into a Sex Addict at Age 9

This is not fiction. This happened to my friend.

My friend Tunji (not his real name) was just 9 years old when his life changed forever. He was living with his mum around St John's Primary School, Oke Aro, Akure. They lived in a face me and face you compound. His mum did shift work, so there were nights she was never around.

There were older ladies living in other rooms in that compound.

Tunji was a lovable boy. These women would send him on errands, give him money, play with him. At first it seemed harmless. But slowly they started pressing their chest on him during play. Being a small boy he did not understand what was happening.

Then they started touching his private parts.

Then they started having sex with him.

His mother thought those big sisters simply loved her son. She never knew what was happening behind closed doors.

By the time Tunji was 12 he was no longer a victim responding to abuse. He was craving it.

By 13 he was sleeping with girls his own age in our circle. I did not know until we were around 15 and he told me himself, at that time they just left the compound to another location far away from there, and that is when we were now close because it was closer to our house. By then he had already influenced almost everyone in our clique. Most of our pair started sleeping with each other at a very tender age because of his influence.

The first time I heard about dildos and sex toys, he was the one that told me during our conversation. I was confused. Where did a boy our age even learn that from?

One thing I always noticed about Tunji was his dressing. When the rest of us were still dressing shabbily he was always clean, neat and conscious of his appearance. That never changed till today.

We went to the same higher institution. He was brilliant, genuinely ahead of all of us mentally during our primary and Jss class but he nose dived from SSS class and struggled to graduate from our institution. He had an extra year. Sex addiction was swallowing his potential whole.

He was disciplined multiple times in church for preying on young girls. Eventually shame stopped him from coming at all.

In 2018 he slept with the older sister of one of our close friends. The woman was around 45 with 4 children, they were sex partner. When it came out it caused serious outrage within our circle. He eventually came to apologise to our friend. When my friend told me about his apology I felt deep pain. Not just anger. Pain.

One day we were talking and he asked me if I knew the real genesis of his problem. I said no. That was when he told me everything about those women in their compound when he was 9.

I felt sorry for him.

He is now married with a child. But between when we became friends in 2005 and when we started drifting 2016, I personally know up to 20 people he slept with.

Some women deliberately condition young boys into sex addiction and those boys carry it for the rest of their lives. We talk about abuse like it only happens one way. This is the side nobody wants to discuss.

Tunji did not choose this life at 9. They chose it for him.

The male child is also being abused but society has conditioned them to stay quiet.

If anything similar happened to you, this is a safe space. Feel free to share your story in the comments.

I didn't ask for Tunji's consent to share this story. I have deliberately left out certain details to protect his identity. Some things are better left unsaid out of respect for him as a person.

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@abdullahayofel I like how APC supporters always prove Bwala right always, at some point you will wonder if they have conscience.

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This was your assertion when they started in Benue, we don't care again in the south, any herders that don't have a ranch should go back and use the forest of his state. Hence, any herder who wants to hide inside our bush under the pretence of herders is a bandit. If not let them buy land and do ranch. Enough is enough.

HERDERS WITHOUT A RANCH IS A BANDITS
HERDERS IN THE FOREST IS BANDITS
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HERDERS IN THE FOREST IS BANDITS
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HERDERS WITHOUT A RANCH IS A BANDITS
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@Uptownoflagos They know their candidate, they dare not

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@AJSMILE911 Hope you can defend this tour post?

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@TheYorubaTimes Gumi went to Oyo, those clerics that invited him needs to answer a few questions, if we connect the dot we will see who brought them to Yoruba land.

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@aonanuga1956 @BiGBENNGTR I like the way he was cracked up and arrested within shortest time, now can we channel the same energy to arrest bandits and terrorists that post on tik tok?

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@instablog9ja After bedeviling us with darkness, they use touch as an emblem

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@eliezerteam @Alafin_Adelakun @AdemolaOgudu I think you know the military better than the Military. You just dish out a lie without blinking. It's ok, Nigeria will be OK

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@imariabe_jnr You must not speak the truth in their cult

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@BashirAhmaad Hope it will not be counted like your primary result?

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So you will join the military, that denied the death of their General after leaving him at the mercy of terrorists. A military that would forgive terrorists that killed their soldiers and rehabilitate him without compensation for the family of the deceased. Please when did you say you want to take your own form to join them?

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@OgbeniDipo A President should not be advised on social media to do the needful if he is serious with protecting lives of Nigerians. However, thank you for the advice, I hope he listens.

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@engr_shaibu_ I go do am, make he give me small money first 🤣🤣🤣

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@ruffydfire This man is still contesting? He might actually be the underdog that would shake Oyo state

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@Onsogbu More shameful that a government could not do anything to secure the country such that nobody will run PR on insecurity.

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@BashirAhmaad It started from killing anyone in the name of blaphamey. That is where they learn the act of killing and after they graduated to terrorists.

So we need to first stop the ideology of killing for the prophet "blasphemy" before uniting against terror.

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@abdullahayofel You didn't add it will favour me and my family, while?

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@RealAdeshina What exactly do you want Seyi to do and what area is he not cooperating with them?

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@babBat77 Mention one fake news they share and bring receipts

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@aniky_bee No you just ran from a bad government. If you don't run from home, let those who are at home decide who is best for them. You can be in safe haven and be telling us what to do. You can come home and try a road trip from Lagos to Borno, so that you can understand our pain.