I highly recommend having hobbies cause it distracts you from falling in love unnecessarily, and I have an explanation. An ideal mind always mistakes loneliness with love, but busy minds have standards, because when most of your days are filled with things like lifting, creating, reading, learning things like that, you stop chasing people for excitement, because we have a really bad habit of romanticizing every bit of attention that we get. Even if it was not not directed at us with the same intensity of intention, most of the time you are simply wanting something to do.Instead of the feel that you're confusing with wanting.And I strongly believe that best relationships are built when two complete lives meet instead of two bored people who try to become each other's hobby, the interdependence in that situation would create the pressure which finally would become the reason for the eventual breakdown.
Women lose se*ual interest when they are emotionally disappointed. Most men don't want to hear this. You can be physically attractive, you can even be great in the bedroom, but if you keep emotionally disappointing her. Her desire for you will slowly die. A woman's body will not fully open to a man who keeps hurting her heart. She can go through the motions, but the passion and genuine desire eventually disappears every time you dismiss her feelings, every time you break your word.Every time you make her feel unseen, her attraction fades, she stops initiating, she stops getting excited and when you touch her she starts finding reasons not to be intimate with you. It's her mind and body protecting her from someone she no longer feels emotionally safe with because you can't keep pouring cold water on a fire and then wonder why it stopped burning, and that's why when a woman's heart stops feeling safe with you. Eventually her body follows.
The last few months I dipped my toes into the dating pool & realized that some men believe a woman who likes them enough will eventually betray herself for them. if her standards/boundaries/self respect arent negotiable they assume she does not really like them 😂 I really think this mindset does men a huge disservice in pursuit of healthy romantic relationships its like a form of self sabotage.
If you are ADHD or have CPTSD or you’re just like a highly sensitive person in general, you HAVE to protect your central nervous system like your life depends on it.
Because it DOES.
Sometimes what people call communication problems are power problems. One person can be blunt & call it “being honest.” The other has to be gentle, careful & diplomatic just to avoid being accused of disrespect.