If we wanna realistically recover from trauma, we gotta start putting our needs, especially for safety & stability, first. No way around it.
Yeah. It'll feel "selfish." It'll clash w/ old conditioning. It'll feel awkward.
Do it anyway.
I USED TO CRAVE:
Validation
Understanding
Connections
Apologies
I NOW UNDERSTAND:
Your validity is not dependent on others
Sometimes, people are dedicated to misunderstanding you
Connections are sometimes seasonal
You don’t need an apology to heal
i feel like the person reading this has a personality that is so magnetic. a heart that is so big. a smile that is so warm. eyes that are so darling. a mind that is so complex and enticing. you’re not hard to love idk who convinced you of that.