Usman Ali

A Seeker who will not Settle for Slavery. Follow my journey to Personal,Professional, Spiritual Freedom

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

Insecure people find security in making those better than them feel worse about themselves.

- the nerds you made fun of will likely become your boss

- Those you dumbed yourself down to fit in with won’t have your back

With self belief you’ll have no reason to bring others down

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

5 Ways Buddhism & Yoga improved my Islam:

- Non-judgement
- Presence of mind
- Surrendering control
- Personal responsibility
- Knowledge of the nafs (ego)

Like the prophet ﷺ said:

“Wisdom is the lost property of the believer

Wherever he finds it, he is most deserving of it"

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

4 reasons why I turned from Islam to Buddhism & Yoga:

- Blind faith
- Spiritual emptiness
- Inability to accept help
- Hatred towards my father

4 reasons why I returned:

- Weakness
- Rationality
- Forgiveness
- Divine Mercy

Allah's doors are never closed. He is Most Merciful

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

4 reasons why I turned from Islam to Buddhism & Yoga:
- Blind faith
- Spiritual emptiness
- Inability to accept help
- Hatred towards my father

4 reasons why I returned:

- Weakness
- Rationality
- Forgiveness
- Allah's Mercy

His doors are never closed. He is Most Merciful

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

6 Red flags of a marriage built on trauma bonds:

- No solitude
- A mother-son dynamic
- Feeding each other's vices
- Physical intimacy is absent
- Addiction to highs and lows
- Avoiding difficult conversations

Fear and love are easily confused

Ask Allah to know the difference

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

6 Ways muslim men struggle silently
(women will NEVER understand):

- Immense pressure
- Never feeling enough
- His feelings come last
- Constantly lowering the gaze
- When women take zero accountability
- Leading in a society that resents authority

No joke

Life is hard for men

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

6 Ways muslim men struggle
(women will NEVER understand):

- Immense pressure
- Never feeling enough
- His emotions come last
- Constantly lowering the gaze
- When women take zero accountability
- Leading in a society that resents authority

No joke

Life is hard for men too

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

6 Ways Yoga improved my Islam:

- Trusting Allah's plan
- Overcoming waswas
- No more robotic salah
- Direct experience of Allah
- Non-attachment to dunya
- Replacing addiction with bliss

It's not about worshipping false gods

It's about ending worship of the nafs (ego)

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

9 Signs a muslim man's inner-child is broken:

- OCD
- ADHD
- Addiction
- Panic attacks
- "Nice-guy-ism"
- Suppressed anger
- Spiritual emptiness
- Resentment and avoidance
- Obsession with work performance

The more you bury your pain...

The more it hurts the ones you love

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

7 Fears of masculine muslim women
(that block submission & femininity in marriage):

- Betrayal
- Rejection
- Oppression
- Dependence
- Abandonment
- Painful emotions
- Societal judgement

Committed relationship is a fast track to God

Your fears can't survive the furnace of Love

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

6 Ways muslim men turn off their wives
(and kill the chemistry):

- Anxious people pleasing
- Lack of self acceptance
- Addictive behaviours
- Emotional weakness
- Over-analysing
- Stinginess

The No.1 cause for divorce is not injustice

It is masculine / feminine imbalance

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

6 Ways muslim men turn off their wives
(and kill the chemistry):

- Lack of self acceptance
- Being overly-analytical
- Addictive behaviours
- Emotional weakness
- People pleasing
- Stinginess

The No.1 cause for divorce is not injustice

It is imbalance of Yin / Yang forces

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

Only weak muslim men argue with their wives
(5 skills to help you stop):

- Yogic breathing
- Zen concentration
- Non-dual detachment
- Red-pill shi* test detection
- Prophetic level understanding

Real men don't argue

They stay grounded, focused and in their hearts

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

Stop arguing with your wife if you want to:

- Zone in on your vision/ mission
- Make her more submissive
- Preserve self-respect
- Keep her attracted
- Not be a loser

Arguing and complaining are an utter waste of time

Leave such behaviours to women

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

7 Signs a muslim woman feels unsafe in marriage:

- Resentment & bitterness
- Hyper-independence
- Repeatedly arguing
- Not accepting help
- Rejecting intimacy
- Hard heartedness
- Disrespecting you

Women need safety like men need respect

Without it she will make your life HELL

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

6 ways a man breaks the “mother-son” dynamic
(in a muslim marriage):

- Commit to Ihsaan
- Say no to your wife
- Accept her disapproval
- Be conscious in intimacy
- Pursue spiritual enlightenment
- Heal your unconscious wounds

She's not "controlling"

She's just afraid to let go

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

5 Unconscious wounds that make muslim men terrible man-child husbands:

- The father wound
- The mother wound
- The rejection wound
- The unworthiness wound
- The abandonment wound

Real men focus on healing

Without it you'll always remain a boy

Guilty, angry, afraid & ashamed

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

4 years ago I returned from new-age spirituality to Islam
(Here are 4 reasons why):

- No clear right and wrong
- Spiritual highs but still stuck
- Becoming a slave to the nafs (ego)
- Lack of clear purpose and direction

All paths lead to Islam

But not the Islam I was raised on

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

7 reasons why mornings are the hardest
(for anxious, overthinking muslims):

- Excess feminine energy
- Subconscious leakage
- Denying your intuition
- Inner-child rebellion
- Mind-identification
- Physical inactivity
- Lack of clarity

You are not your mind

Think less, act more

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

5 ways to win your morning every day
(as an anxious, overthinking muslim):

- Deep, diaphragmatic breathing
- Immediate wudhu & salah
- Meditation & visualisation
- Yoga & resistance training
- Content creation

Thinking isn't going to solve your problem

Action is what you need

[Usman Ali @usman_unchained]

6 Reasons a muslim man loses his wife’s respect
(and how to get it back):

- Being a stinge bag
- Betraying his word
- Avoiding deep talk
- Emotional instability
- Running to addictions
- Slacking on his religion

Your wife is your mirror

Point the finger at your self, not her