Rob

[Rob @velaert]

Malayo pa, pero malayo na

[Arky @arkcarlly]

May you never again get attached to anyone who isn't for you, may you find a love that makes you love again. A love you never have to heal from.

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

And i hope💕

[Rob @velaert]

Akala ko ‘eyy’ to 🤙

[• @WordsCocoon]

one real person!

[Dr. Deano @sexdoctordeano]

Our Allies can make Mistakes

Okay, PLHIV Babes. You know I’ll always be the first to stand up for you. But if we want to have meaningful conversations, we need to look at both sides of the coin. So, sorry...pero I have to call this out, also.

I’m sure most people who post their negative HIV results don’t mean any harm. HIV status is a complex topic with many nuances, and people are bound to make mistakes—it’s part of learning. What matters is acknowledging those mistakes, understanding why they might be hurtful, and making an effort not to repeat them. A compassionate and well-informed community will always be more effective in creating lasting change.

Let me give you an example. When I was new to the HIV field, every time I tested someone and they received a negative result, I would say “Congratulations.” Then a subordinate called me out and explained why that wasn’t the right thing to say. At first, it seemed harmless to me, but I realized it could be deeply hurtful to others. We need to be mindful of how our words affect people—what may seem insignificant to us can mean something much bigger to someone else. I learned, I corrected myself, and I became better. Everyone deserves the same opportunity to grow.

So, PLHIV Babes, we don’t always have to respond with anger when advocating for our cause, especially when engaging with our closest allies (like HIV-negative MsM). Calling them out aggressively in a public forum can also create an “us vs. them” mentality. Save the rage for those who truly deserve it.

This is an opportunity to educate and create space for learning. What we need to foster are respectful, compassionate, and open conversations—not further division in our community.

So, magbati na kayo mga bakla kayo!

[• @WordsCocoon]

manifesting!

[Rob @velaert]

😫

[Dr. Deano @sexdoctordeano]

On Sharing our Negative HIV Results

Some HIV advocates discourage posting HIV-negative results because it can fuel stigma against PLHIV. It can create an "us vs. them" mindset, making HIV-positive people feel excluded or ashamed.

Seeing people post their HIV-negative results can feel isolating for PLHIV. It unintentionally sends the message that being negative is something to celebrate, while being positive is something to hide or be ashamed of. Even if that’s not the intention, it reinforces stigma and makes it harder for PLHIV to be open about their status.

Imagine being newly diagnosed and scrolling through posts of people proudly sharing their negative results—it can make you feel like you’re on the outside, like you’ve somehow failed, even though HIV is just a manageable condition like any other.

At the end of the day, if the PLHIV community is communicating to us that something harms them, isn’t it just basic decency to listen? If making a small adjustment—like not publicly posting negative results—helps create a more inclusive, stigma-free world, why not do it? Instead of focusing on status, we can promote regular testing, PrEP, and safe sex without alienating anyone.

[🧬Maxpein🧬 @maximumpain333]

😈

[Rob @velaert]

Nakaka pagod

[Rowena Guanzon @rowena_guanzon]

Utang na loob huwag nyo na iboto si Bato.

[Rob @velaert]

Napanuod ko nanaman to hahaha

[𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗻𝘆🫧💚 @beyoncegarden]

the way they just ignored her struggling with the dog is taking me out😭

[Rob @velaert]

Nangati rin tuloy likod ko HAHAHAAH

[Marx @cospisces]

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[alexei @alexeixbt]

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