Builders don’t have time to play chase. If we are chasing that means you’re running away…..just think about that; that’s lowkey creepy, stalkish and immature. A). Men get accused of harassment everyday for “trying again” after a woman’s no. B). Women’s Rights organizations have whole campaigns literally focused around the concept of “No means no”. C). You are NOT the only option of pursuit so no is taken as no. Thinking men are not interested in chasing after an initial no…..and if / when they do; it usually transitions into some form of static debt given that your secondary yes after your initial no; which is usually tied to a newfound knowledge of what that man could do for you rather than who we he is as a human-being…..otherwise you would have said yes from the beginning. Providing adversity at the onset to someone expressing interest in you all to make him chase after you is a red flag not a flex.
Intelligent people hate pretending. Forced connections. Fake energy. Surface-level conversations. Pretending to be interested in things they don't care about. Performing a personality just to fit in. That shit drains them. They'd rather be alone than "pretend" to be someone they're not.
You commit an act of infidelity while in an arrangement where exclusively was agreed upon - then after he forgives you - you tell the man that you committed this infidels’ act against…. that the two could be friends? how insensitive to think he was going to cuck in excitement over that delusional proposition. Don’t confuse a man’s self-respect or insecurity either He may not be mature enough to agree that the two men could be friends with an automatic common integral - your disloyalty. I know all of this is Hypothetical but: Imagine him blowing out the back of your cheerleading rival then after you forgive the act - He tells you on pillow: “you know you and Tammy would make excellent team.” We know how that’s going to turn out. I swear kids nowadays. 😆
Don’t confuse “hobby” for escape. The biology of a man’s brain is to build - in order to build one must be able to think deeply - in order for one to think deeply…one must have space for peace and most of all QUIET. If he not getting that space to strategize sitting around you - he will escape to meet the need…and rightfully so. Tit-for-Tat will get you left-for-right if you dealing with a real one. Your concept will only work on men who accept this type of gameplay….the ones y’all file for divorce on 84% of the time. Good luck with the get-back though.
people will use the worst moment of your life to discredit every good thing you’ve ever shown them. apparently your kindness is fake but your anger is the real you.