#phdlife#academia#humanities#arthistory Ok, not gonna downplay it: Passed my PhD viva with A, no corrections. Way beyond my expectations. I'm happy beyond belief, happy to brag. If you're in academia, you know what this means...still processing the information.
What if we’ve been looking at Bear all wrong?
Bear didn’t use the One Wish Willow because it was his only path to Nikki. He used it because he couldn’t face vulnerability, rejection, or uncertainty.
To me, that’s the real horror. The wish was a shortcut around the hard, human work of being emotionally honest.
That doesn’t excuse what he did. If anything, it’s the film’s warning: work on yourself, communicate honestly, and learn to accept “no” instead of trying to control the outcome. #Obsession
@tomispov That's a key issue with men and the film shows well. Fear of rejection overpowers any expression of love. That's where all his troubles started and turned it a living nightmare.
There’s no entity or possession.The whole movie is about her autonomy being stripped from her for the pleasure of a man.Nikki isn’t in hell she’s not in purgatory she’s fighting magic.Shes been pushed to the back of her own mind and the magic of the wish is what’s in the way.Everytime she screams it’s her trying to rip her autonomy back from the wish but she can’t. #Obsession
obsession was really terrifying bc one man became infatuated with the idea of a woman for years and feels entitled to her and makes a wish that she'll fall in love with him more than anyone else in the entire world
and when his wish comes true he doesn't care that she's not in control of herself while they're together and that it was not consensual. he wanted her to be devoted to him so she could cater to his unfulfilled needs until she became inconvenient.
when she becomes "too much" he wishes for her to be normal and genuinely believes he's the victim in a situation he created.
this movie has me thinking about the larger societal framing of how people view women who are emotionally reactive as dangerous and uncredible, when in reality, they are trying to deal with the trauma of being put in harmful and violent situations by predatory and abusive men.
#Obsession terrifying much? Heavy. Very. Much to unpack there. About unfiltered crazy love and externalised true infantile emotions, fear of abandonment and co-dependence. Very good.
@BasilTheGreat Oh pleasaaaaaaaase. The sexist objectifying bullcrap that exist about women is endless. The fact that this "incident" was picked up by media proves how rare is such an occasion that a woman can honestly comment publicly on a man's looks. How dare she...god forbid!
@its_The_Dr As Iong as you manage to annoy your lady and push those buttons she will stay around. Cause that keeps a healthy banter, and her interest alive. Don't be boring. Annoy her to the best of your abilities 😅
@quesadaaa_ Yeah but it's a beautiful story and has a nice twist to it...good film. A futuristic take on Adam&Eve. And why men are genuinely incapable of being alone. Just not possible.
In The Hand of Dante is officially streaming on Netflix. This is not a drill. It’s available as we speak. This stars Oscar Isaac, Gerard Butler, Martin Scorsese, and Al Pacino, amongst some more big names, & follows a story that combines two timelines- a man in modern NYC tracking down the manuscript of Dante’s Divine Comedy & Dante himself writing the piece in the 14th Century. My review will be posted in the next day or two. Cannot wait.
so many of us academics in the UK, especially in the arts & humanities, are constantly undervalued, having to always fight for our jobs, and justify our existence.
This seemingly unending battle just to teach, research and write for our ancient disciplines - that are imperative for critical thinking, imagination, empathy, future employment, and political participation - often feels futile and is causing widespread distress and disillusionment within the higher education sector.
The funding model and wider political climate is what’s wrong with the university sector - not its tireless, brilliant workers.
Sending solidarity to colleagues at Exeter, Nottingham, and Dundee.
Seen it before but rewatching HER. Such a moving story about love and co-dependence, the perfect virtual partner...and the absence of real human connection. Amazing visuals.
Jimmy Carr nailed something a lot of us feel but can’t explain.
We’re living better than 99.9% of humans who ever walked the earth, hot showers, modern medicine, endless entertainment, kids that actually survive infancy, yet so many of us feel miserable.
He calls it “life dysmorphia.” We get used to how good we have it (the hedonic treadmill), then compare ourselves to everyone else and tank our own happiness.
As he puts it: happiness = quality of life minus envy.
Marcus Aurelius put it perfectly: “Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself in your way of thinking.”
When was the last time you caught yourself feeling unhappy despite objectively having it pretty damn good?