Almost exactly (!) one year after my interview with Mark, I spoke to ✨𝒯𝒴 𝓉𝓇𝒶𝒸𝓀✨ Mr. Lee Taeyong from @NCTsmtown about roses, romanticism, and reaching 27 in this piece for Teen Vogue. Grateful to everyone involved for helping to make this happen!🌹https://t.co/uwriAqe8Q1
Authenticity is who you are when no one is watching.
We conform to groups to avoid being excluded.
We go along to get along.
We alter ourselves because to be isolated puts us at risk, makes us feel unsafe.
When you're uncomfortable in social settings, it's a signal that you might be behaving in a way that isn't aligned with who you really are.
Check in with yourself. Ask, why am I behaving this way? How would I normally act if no one was around? Then make a decision that brings you back into alignment.
I am in my 50s, and want to know,
how do you know what you know?
This is the question David asked me. He adds, "Sometimes I just feel like I know nothing after watching these videos. Where did you learn so much, books, working experience, school?"
My response (expanded version)—
I've had the benefit of a few things happening in my life
which have really helped me to grow.
1. Started a business in 1995 @BlindLA (as a new 23yr. old graduate). Lots of real world experience working as a director/designer in the advertising industry. It was a highly competitive market place and how I learned to do sales calls, write proposals, solve problems, and lead teams.
2. Hired a business coach (13+ years) in the early 2000s. I met with the late @keir74 every single week for 13 years! Every time I thought I was stuck, Keir would reframe the problem and he made the answer so simple. Aside from teaching me how to run a business, he made sure it didn't come at the cost of my marriage.
3. Taught at @artcenteredu /@OtisCollege for 15+ years. If you want to get good at anything, you have to put in the reps. While at ArtCenter, I had the pleasure of working w/ Sam Holtzman who taught me a new way of teaching. He called it "scaffolding to autonomy" which is a fancy way of getting students to discover the answer on their own vs. telling them.
4. Started working with a family therapist (Joan Lightfoot). Although I had only met with her a dozen times, I learned so much about belief systems, birth order, family trauma, opening myself to my emotions, how to raise children, doing things that are perceived as "helpful", and why I was a "caretaker". Even more important, I got to watch her work, while she was working on me. She asked amazing questions and it was masterclass in coaching/therapy.
5. Started producing content in 2014 w/ my classmate @josecaballer. It's true what you learn in the pursuit of teaching others. All my years teaching prepared me to make content and how to manage the energy of a room.
6. Read a ton of books. Admittedly, I didn't reach much in my 30s. But I'm making up for lost time. I don't read to consume. I don't read to apply. I read to teach. When I'm interested in something, I don't just read a book or watch a video. I read books from other authors to compare and contrast. I study.
7. Seek teachers. Interviewing authors & notable people for our Podcast and YouTube channel. Most underrated way to pick the brain of people you admire (free coaching life hack). I ask questions to benefit me, and others get to learn as well.
8. Coaching other people. I love working through the friction of why people are stuck. When I discover a new mental road block/limiting belief, I think that there must be other people who think this same way. I'm constantly testing frameworks and story structures. I created the #FuturPro Group just so I can practice.
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Another call for pitches: Seeking music profiles for March/beyond. (If you already pitch these to another editor, you can keep doing so. I'm just assigning a lot more now.) Nothing specific here—just searching for intriguing stories and sounds, ideally with a unique angle. (1/2)
First piece of 2024! A conversation with my fave K-R&B soft boy @crush9244 about those funny things called feelings 🪶 Tried my best to overcome the emotional distance of email. Someone who is consistently warm and genuine in every interview I see; would love to chat in person..!
Overcoming Burnout: Korean R&B sensation @crush9244 gets personal...
"Understanding and expressing my emotions is hard for me, too..."
https://t.co/WnpiVKlAyR
@moralgrey solution is to try everything for a little bit to figure out what you really can dedicate urself to and care about vs what is fun in fantasy but not worth it irl
fellas why can’t i be a writer, a librarian, a ballerina, a pianist, a poet, a figure skater, a painter and a cute little bakery owner all at the same time
It takes real skill to consistently get major artists to reveal fresh things about their creative process and life. The people who can do it should never be treated like they're disposable
Already better than I'd dared hope... WayV are back yo!! Might also dare hope that once again we have an AOTY on our hands...✌️ https://t.co/wqTC6MrCag
First piece in a while and first time reviewing a concert! Managed to get box seats last minute at @JYPETWICE's world tour stop in London a few weeks ago and it was an excellent show, would recommend seeing them if you have the chance ✨ https://t.co/2M1fcM4djW