Dear man,
Please have so much money in your hands until you dont know what to do with it.
Please save a lot of money too. Avoid riba and debts at all cost. You will save a lot and have plenty of money in ur hands and pockets.
I am 33 this year and I feel so fucked up with my life. I wish I could start back earlier and do what I do best and not hearing other people’s opinions of what should I do.
If you have a stable income, dont quit your job. Do side hustles and everything as long as you have lots of money in ur hands.
Dont be like me. I am still fortunate as I realized it early. And now I have my 2 years, 5 years and 10 years target. By 40 I need to achieve some things in my life.
Wish me luck. Everything is syncing accordingly.
MONEY DOES BUY HAPPINESS
You’re free. Life on easy mode. You can do anything you want. It boosts your ego. Not checking price tags. “Money doesn’t buy happiness.” Hedonism. Dreams become reality. People want to connect with you. An infinite number of opportunities. Just chilling.
But you know what money can’t buy?
PEACE.
Constantly anxious. No purpose. “What’s the meaning of life?” Fake people. Emptiness. Lack of soul. Addicted to pleasure. Void inside.
Making money is a good thing, but not when it’s the whole purpose of your existence.
lol.. I can list 10 F1 drivers with yachts in Monaco, I can list 4 musicians and I can list 10 business moguls with yachts in Monaco, but according to Lady Victoria, no billionaire in Monaco made their money legally 😭. The idea that wealth has to be dirty comes from a religious mindset. What religion has done to you guys is crazy tbh.
I was in Monaco few years ago.
Really nothing special.
Bunch of old dudes, trust fund babies and gold-diggers.
What people don't understand, especially in USA - Europe has GENERATIONAL WEALTH.
I am talking money that has been piling up for centuries.
France, Italy, Spain, UK, Portugal, there are literally families who owned slaves and cotton-fields, ships, docks, export-import licences.
They were the ones producing goods with no labour cost and exporting it to America.
They were the ones who were buying Paris land plots for pennies back in the days that are now worth billions.
Most of them really just fell on super-accumulated wealth over big period of time.
Few of the people will achieve this wealth for their lifetime.
Very few.
Most of the people I've met there are really born into money.
It's normal for them, as it was normal for their parents.
I never found it cool cause I just don't belog there even tho I am very well educated and raised and I made a very, very affluent life for myself.
The truth is - you will never belog there if you don't come from money.
The true, dynasty money.
This is also what US people don't understand.
European old money doesn't respect the hustle and motion, they find it silly and amusing.
You are a lower-status poor child they were thought not to take seriously.
You know the girl you meet one summer.
She thinks you are cute and loves that you are street smart, and bend the rules.
She will party with you, hang out, fuck you and have her romance, but she will marry someone from her class.
This is literally how most of the true aristocratic European circles still look at world.
I also never found old money cool other then aesthetics and arhitecture - and for that they have the best one.
In my books most of them are useless spoiled kids who just won in life by chance and they have no respect for anything cause they haven't done anything themselves most of the times.
They think we are savages and we think they are pussies.
Find a place you belong in buddy and make a world a better place then you found it.
Even if you do stumble in those echalons of society, you will always be a gaijin.
Siapa yang rasa hidup dia boring sekarang? Boring actually means good. Boring means things are moving exactly as per plan. No nonsense like kereta rosak, kena layoff, anak sakit atau etc. Bersyukur.
97% of people, inspired by the F1 weekend, because they saw superyachts in a bay in Monaco, will wake up on Monday morning and go back to doing exactly what they were doing last week
The other 3% will wake up, take action, take more risks, and work towards getting their own.
Aku membesar dengan pertanyaan kenapa poligami wujud dan dibenarkan.
Dulu, ia sekadar neutral curiosity. Tak pro, tak anti. Cuma satu persoalan yang aku rasa menarik untuk difahami.
Tetapi semakin aku belajar tentang sejarah, human nature, evolutionary biology, psychology dan bagaimana societies organize themselves across time, semakin aku sedar bahawa poligami bukanlah sesuatu yang muncul secara arbitrari atau semata-mata kerana “lelaki nak ramai perempuan.”
Ia wujud hampir di setiap tamadun manusia dalam pelbagai bentuk sama ada diinstitusikan secara formal, diamalkan secara informal, atau tolerated as social reality.
Persoalan yang lebih menarik sebenarnya bukan:
“Kenapa poligami wujud?”
Tetapi:
“Apakah keadaan yang biasanya menyebabkan ia muncul?”
Salah satu observation yang menarik ialah bagaimana ramai wanita moden secara explicit mengatakan mereka tidak mahu berkahwin dengan lelaki miskin. And it's not shocking pun.
Dalam hampir semua kajian tentang mate selection, wanita secara umum cenderung memilih pasangan yang competent, stabil, mampu menyediakan perlindungan, resources dan social security atau sekurang-kurangnya menunjukkan potensi ke arah itu.
Tetapi definisi “lelaki miskin” dalam masyarakat moden semakin berubah.
Bagi sesetengah orang, miskin bukan lagi sekadar tak cukup makan atau tak mampu survive.
Miskin kini boleh bermaksud:
tak cukup gaji, tiada rumah sendiri, tiada kereta yang baik, kurang status, kurang ambition, kurang social proof, kurang emotional intelligence, kurang confidence, atau sekadar “not on my level.”
Apabila standard pasangan semakin tinggi dan pada masa yang sama wanita diberikan kebebasan penuh untuk memilih, majoriti wanita cenderung memberi perhatian kepada minority lelaki yang dianggap high value.
This isn't controversial. Malah dating apps sendiri menunjukkan concentration of attention toward a smaller percentage of men.
Persoalannya, jika majoriti wanita mahukan minority lelaki, bagaimana sistem (forced) monogami universal mahu sustain? Kerana secara matematik, mismatch akan berlaku.
Apabila terdapat concentration of female preference toward a smaller pool of desirable men, societies biasanya tidak menghasilkan egalitarian romantic outcomes.
Sebaliknya, ia cenderung menghasilkan pelbagai bentuk reproductive concentration:
poligami formal, mistresses, concubinage, elite male monopolization, serial monogamy, atau situationship moden di mana beberapa wanita berkongsi lelaki yang sama tanpa label rasmi.
Ironinya (not so ironic considering women are KAKA), ramai wanita moden sangat membenci idea poligami secara moral atau emosional. Tetapi pada masa yang sama, mating preferences yang increasingly selective kadang-kadang bergerak ke arah structural outcome yang sangat mirip dengan poligami cuma tanpa nama "poligami"
Mungkin sebab itu, semakin aku memahami sejarah dan human behavior, semakin aku kurang melihat poligami sebagai sesuatu yang random.
Aku mula melihatnya sebagai salah satu recurring response manusia terhadap mating asymmetry. Kau tak semestinya perlu suka kesimpulan itu.
Tetapi susah untuk ignore sesuatu pattern apabila ia berulang dalam sejarah, biology dan observable human behavior.
Also, ada satu lagi perkara yang buat aku semakin skeptical bila ramai wanita menunjukkan seolah-olah mereka inherently disgusted dengan idea poligami.
Sebahagian daripada reaksi tersebut mungkin lebih berkait dengan social norms daripada intrinsic moral instinct.
Dalam mana-mana masyarakat, manusia secara umum sangat dipengaruhi oleh apa yang diberikan social reward dan apa yang dikenakan social punishment.
Tetapi bagi wanita, reputational cost historically sering menjadi lebih signifikan.
Social belonging, approval, acceptance dan in-group alignment mempunyai survival value yang sangat tinggi, dahulu dan sekarang, cuma dalam bentuk yang berbeza.
Sebab itu, apa yang dianggap “normal,” “acceptable,” atau “morally respectable” oleh sesuatu culture sering memberi pengaruh besar terhadap bagaimana sesuatu idea dinilai secara terbuka.
Hari ini, dalam kebanyakan budaya moden, anti-poligami ialah mainstream moral posture.
Ia dianggap enlightened, progressive dan socially respectable.
Jadi sudah tentu ramai akan mengambil stance tersebut sama ada kerana genuine conviction, emotional conditioning, atau kerana itulah dominant social script pada zaman ini.
Tetapi sejarah manusia menunjukkan bahawa social attitudes sentiasa berubah mengikut incentives, institutions dan environment.
Banyak perkara yang dahulu dianggap taboo menjadi normal.
Dan banyak perkara yang dahulu dianggap “obviously right” akhirnya berubah hanya kerana cultural momentum berubah arah.
Sebab itu aku kurang percaya bahawa emotional rejection terhadap poligami semestinya datang daripada sesuatu yang universal atau immutable.
Manusia lelaki mahupun wanita jauh lebih responsive terhadap social incentives, reputational pressure dan collective norms daripada yang kita suka akui.
Kalau culture berubah, moral language berubah.
Kalau incentives berubah, ramai juga akan adapt bersama perubahan itu.
Dan semakin aku melihat semua ini, semakin aku bersyukur dengan Islam.
Sebab apabila manusia terlalu bergantung kepada zeitgeist, trend dan collective emotion untuk menentukan apa yang betul dan salah, moral compass masyarakat sentiasa berubah-ubah.
Apa yang dianggap virtue hari ini boleh menjadi vice esok.
Apa yang dipandang jijik hari ini boleh dinormalisasikan beberapa dekad kemudian.
Tetapi Islam memberi kita sesuatu yang lebih stabil daripada social consensus.
Kita tidak perlu meraba-raba dalam kegelapan, menunggu society decide apa yang patut diterima atau ditolak.
Kerana yang haq itu jelas, dan yang batil itu juga jelas.
Bukan bermaksud manusia akan sentiasa suka atau selesa dengan apa yang syariat tetapkan.
Tetapi sekurang-kurangnya kita mempunyai anchor yang tidak berubah hanya kerana opinion majoriti berubah.
Go workout. Tell no one.
Go for a run. Tell no one.
Eat clean. Tell no one.
Read a book. Tell no one.
Travel. Tell no one.
Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.