Hailey

2️⃣6️⃣ IG: @wanderluusttt

[Hailey @wanderluusttt]

Don’t piss me off

[EarthtoGazelle @EarthToGazelle]

Bingooooo — so many men have lied to get sex, faked who they are to get sex, lied about their status to get sex, cheated then came home to their partner… and had sex with them. They think consent just means saying yes. But if that yes would be changed based on that person knowing the truth, then it’s not consent. And they hate knowing that they’re rapists.

[guapunzel @guapunzel]

most men think like this, they’re made to follow orders. so much so, women find it so attractive when a man can intentionally and thoroughly plan things. its where that phrase “turn off my brain” comes from, but people online made it weird like women wanna be infantilized

[Whemïmor @hy_wemmy]

Men are becoming incredibly boring. You can tell when a man only wanted your number because he found you attractive. Once he gets it, there is no depth, no curiosity, no real conversation. Just “How are you?” “What are you doing?” and “What’s up?” on repeat. What exactly am I supposed to do with that?

[StarsMoonandSun ✨🌑🌞 @starsmoonandsun]

Breadcrumbing, triangulation, love bombing, gaslighting, future faking. We’ve discussed this shit for a long time now and it’s very obvious when someone’s bread-crumbing you they’re not giving you shit -just enough to keep you holding on. When they’re triangulating, you they bring other people into the mix they want you to think they’re desirable God help us love bombing. You’re amazing. You’re the sun that shit fades in three months and future faking we’re gonna go to the Hamptons next summer. I promise I’m going to take you on my jet sometime in November. Life is lived now motherfucker what are we doing now?

[M0nzyytheTerrible @PH4GR1CULTURE]

How y'all pronounce Az Chike, I been calling this nigga ass cheek

[Adele Bloch @adele_bloch]

underrated key to a joyful life is live like the possibility of connection is all around you

- smile at the barista
- chat with a stranger in the grocery store line
- text old friends
- call your parents
- find strangers to play volleyball with

the love of your life might be at your next outing. your new best friend might be at the coffee shop. you might hear a beautiful story from a stranger tomorrow.

magic is around every corner

[Hailey @wanderluusttt]

When white people speak Spanish to me unprompted, I take it as a micro aggression 😂

[Charles MEANgus @theboogiecowboy]

Dolly Parton, her parents and siblings doing a version of “In The Pines” in 1976, a song long associated with Lead Belly but whose origins predate him…likely came out of a hodgepodge mix of songs from Southern Appalachia.

[⟡˚⋆ saige @elvendna]

it’s embarrassing how the affects of abuse follow you into your work ethic. when i was in the restaurant industry, i was asked by a manager if i came from a strict family bcus i was the only employee they’ve ever had that did what the managers asked EXACTLY when & how they asked (she grew up in a similar situation). today my supervisor asked me why i’m always saying sorry when i’m just letting her know about something 😐

[𝓔𝓶 ♡ @emkenobi]

The DA has said they will be submitting the case for federal review, so there is a chance he could be charged and go to prison. The victims and their families are also still eligible to sue the city, the high school, and the Butler family.

Jesse Butler will most likely be applying to colleges and may even be attending one this Fall. If the state will not hold him accountable, then the public needs to. He should not be allowed to attend university unless the entire student body is warned about his crimes so that he cannot harm anyone else. Do not let this scum get away with what he did. This needs to follow him for the rest of his life. His parents are doing everything in their power to get this erased from his record and paint him as the victim. It is imperative that the public does not allow that to happen. He very likely will go on to continue his violent behavior, and next time his victim may not survive. He is a danger to women and should be punished. My heart breaks for his victims who bravely stood against him and shared their stories just for the system to betray them.

[The Rizz Report @TheRizzReport]

HOW TO ESCALATE 101:


First off let’s look at the starting point

1 - Body language

She’s looking ahead, not facing him

Her shoulders directly parallel to his body

While she is looking AWAY he is facing her with strong eye contact

Whose interest level is higher here?

Is this a good spot to escalate?

2 - Distance

He’s an entire arms length away

Makes the entire kissing attempt way more try hard

You have to awkwardly cover more distance, as opposed if she was closer.

The more distance needed to cover in escalation, the HIGHER the emotional buy in required.

Going for a kiss when you’re facing each other, an inch away is a LOT smoother, requiring less than leaning in from a mile away.

All to say,

This is LOW levels of buy in + intimacy.

Escalating at this point is like asking a sale before customer investment.

Not a good bet.

This is the “scene” he’s in.

NOW - as for his escalation attempt.

it’s a shitty shot under a shitty circumstance,

“I want to kiss…” notice the resistance.

Turned away, laughing, breaking eye contact - she’s not on the same page.

Read her - do you think she turned away b/c she’s shy, or b/c she’s thinking “ew did he really say that”

Try if you want to, but it is a shaky bridge

Flat vibe, no excitement, no tension, no challenge, no resonance - there’s zero set up.

Pretense for the kiss is doo doo.

The cheek is pity consolation.

And unfortunately,

What Clav did is not uncommon.

Expressing kissing intent, or just going for it unannounced is what A LOT of guys do.

Turns the entire situation SUPER high pressure, catches the girl off guard.

The negative emotions created from the abruptness REDUCES the chance of success.

If she still accepts, it’s IN SPITE of your attempt, not because of it lol.

What to do instead?

Stop thinking of a kiss just as a kiss.

Start thinking in terms of a COMPLIANCE LADDER.

Kissing is the final rung in the ladder.

Start small.

Find reasons to move closer.

“What’d you say? I can’t hear you”

“Why are you so far away this feels like an interview lol”

Break touch barrier.

Tap her shoulder, her arm, her wrist while you talk, or to get attention

Make excuses to hold her forearms/hands - her having tattoos, hand size, calluses, muscles, w/e

These are PINGS to see if there’s resistance while also getting her comfortable with touch and closer distance.

If she tenses up you have more work to do on the emotional front before you can escalate further.

If lower risk areas are green you can move higher up the ladder.

Hold her chin to “see” her earrings, brush her hair behind her ear, brush past her face as you’re checking out her “jawline” ETC

Whole way through you are buffering with plausible deniability as you’re progressively getting more and more intimate.

You are ALLOWING her to invest in to the moment alongside you, leading her through the process as opposed to rushing her and coming across thirsty af.

^physical

Then there is the EMOTIONAL CONTEXT, which is much more powerful if you know what you’re doing.

Escalate on HIGH POINTS.

when she is laughing and playful
After a tease where she’s qualifying to you
When there’s tension from a challenge
When there’s drama from a playful argument
When there’s an emotional resonance moment
ETC

An emotional premise, a STATE change, widens the window to escalation.

She’s more likely to WANT TO ENGAGE if she feels good during it.

Ex to build drama + tension while pinging:

“You look like you’re trying to do something to me don’t bluff me :)”

“I’ll really do something if you don’t stop ;)”

But ALL TO SAY

Kissing is an ascension funnel

Move her up the compliance ladder

Ping for her buy in through out the process

And by the time you actually make the move there is FAR LESS uncertainty

With desire and buy in amped to the maximum

[🔮 @Cosmicenergy_]

I lowkey feel like that mercury retrograde in cancer ruined the summer that was so exhausting.

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

My therapist told me, "When a woman grows up feeling unseen, she learns to love by overgiving. She pours into everyone else, hoping that one day someone will finally pour back into her. She becomes the caretaker, the fixer, the one who shows up even when no one shows up for her. And the hardest part? Deep down, she's not trying to be strong. She's just waiting for someone to do for her what she's spent her whole life doing for everyone else."

[beylandria ౨ৎ @anayatheedoll]

anyone with 2 healthy, functioning brain cells can understand the real issues just like this.

[Love Island USA @loveislandusa]

French Fries: 101 🍟 #LoveIslandUSA

[Hailey @wanderluusttt]

Next year I’m spending my bday alone cause wtf is this

[𝒩𝑜𝓉𝓉𝓎 🌷 @nottydesignss]

When I tell you Trinity is my girl. “Oh I thought you didn’t care.” LMFAOO cause Kenzie I did think that. 😭

[TrendShift 🍵 ⏳ @TrendshiftTea]

Kenzie is Exposed finally.
She went on a double date with Kenzie ,here is her experience with her ;#LoveIslandUSA #Loveisland