She has changed the story yet again and is attacking NYTimes. She's 100 percent a grifter. A MAGAt moron trying to run cover for Susan Collins and attacking "violent leftists".
Remember, they're after 🫵, he's just standing in the way!!
She has changed the story yet again and is attacking NYTimes. She's 100 percent a grifter. A MAGAt moron trying to run cover for Susan Collins and attacking "violent leftists".
Remember, they're after 🫵, he's just standing in the way!!
Anyone who has ever extracted themselves from a relationship with a narcissistic abuser knows it isn’t clean or easy.
I cringe remembering how many times I tried to play the “cool girl” or fawn in response to what was clearly abusive, coercively controlling behavior by Graham.
I also know how dangerous it is to become the target of a narcissist — so even long after our relationship ended I continued to be upbeat any time he reached out, though I would also immediately shut down any attempts on his part to initiate flirting or romanticizing of the past.
Yes, the day I saw him announce he was running I wanted to make sure people knew he had a Nazi tattoo — and I was terrified he would find out it was me.
But of course he knew it was me.
What’s ironic is I absolutely never would have shared my story if he hadn’t been relentlessly attacking my character behind the scenes for months once the tattoo story came out.
I tried to signal that I wasn’t the source and stayed completely silent about him on social media even as most of my friends posted regularly about what a bad person he is.
But then in early April the New York Times came to me. I asked how they got my number. I said I was not interested in sharing my story. They said but wait—there are other women. Women terrified to tell their stories, too, and you need to band together. WE will help you. We will protect you. Men can’t keep getting away with this.
Hours before their first call to me I saw Eric Swalwell’s name plate get removed from his office door in Cannon. It felt like fate.
I welcomed the two journalists into my home days later, nervous and overwhelmed. Justin Fairfax had just murdered his wife and himself the previous day and even conservative pundits were conjecturing that “if only those women hadn’t accused him of abuse, this never would have happened…”
But I told them my story. I let them take pictures of my diary pages. I sent them screenshots of messages and gave them phone numbers and contacts. It was excruciating. I was surprised by what details I remembered, and as I poured through old messages I was horrified by how much I had forgotten.
I explained very clearly that, like many women abused by their partners, I had not told anyone about his violence at the time—I had covered for and defended it. I accepted his earnest apologies. They said that’s fine because the diary entries and my on the record story was enough.
They connected me to two of the other victims so we wouldn’t feel so alone. I insisted to each of them that I trusted the NYT journalists and that we were doing the right thing despite their (sadly very accurate) sense that something was wrong.
One of the victims and I realized our relationships with Graham overlapped completely - he had been cheating on both of us the entire time we were together.
I should note here that my life is just… beautiful. These are the best years of my life. Raising two young girls in a safe, beautiful neighborhood where I work from home and shuffle my children from dance classes and soccer to church events — I am blessed far beyond what I deserve with wonderful friends and family and the most loving, brilliant husband in the world. Why would I blow my life up like this? Why would I risk the psychotic doxxing from violent leftist activists?
Because while I have been terrified to come forward I decided this was the “hard right thing” to do. The guilt of staying silent has nagged me.
Most therapists recommend a “gray rock” approach to extracting yourself from narcissistic abuse — it works really well, but it is a gift to the abuser, allowing them to persist in their delusion that they’ve done nothing wrong.
I couldn’t stay silent as he continued to lie and lie and lie. I want my daughters to boldly speak out if they’re ever abused as I was.
@lyndseyfifield Why did you form a group to discredit the women who came out against Brett Kavanaugh? You dont believe any of this for a second if you went and did that. You also lied about stopping working for the Heritage Foundation. You lied about Mahmoud Khalil and Rumeysa Oztürk too.
Zohran Mamdani gets 10,000 questions a day about antisemitism when he’s never harmed a single Jewish person in any way.
Meanwhile many of the people accusing him support the Jewish version of the Ku Klu Klan.
Meir Kahane was a racist, a terrorist, and main ideologue behind push for ethnic cleansing in Israel -- naturally the New York Times covered up his scandals, including driving a woman to suicide.
yeah the "Iran is made up of proud Persians who hate Islam and love America, Israel, and being bombed for Freedom!" is a very recent innovation on the propaganda. when I was a kid the line was just that they're all terrorists
@tomas_s242 Omar and Tlaib get lumped together because of Islamophobia, but Tlaib is secular while she has always been the Islam-ish, tank-ish of the two on issues like Ukraine, Armenian genocide, Erdogan and supporting Pakistan's Islamist military dictatorship.
I think Lyndsey Fifield — Platners ex — might have been in my mentions a while ago accusing me of misleading people because I posted a video from an Israeli soldiers own social media showing them committing crimes.
I met @lyndseyfifield through Bethany and we have been friends for years, meeting up when I’m in DC. I learned months ago that she was had dated Platner and had told journalists about the Nazi tattoo.
I think she’s very brave to openly share her story of abuse by Platner.
Most important — much more important than the online chattering classes — is that she now has a beautiful family and life. ❤️