My friend said the happiness he gets from being married to his wife equates to the satisfaction people get from financial security when they look at their bank account. He is not even rich but he is very content and very happy. I've known him for over a decade and his financial situation has never affected his mood or relationship. Very decent fellow.
One day he was with me what she called his wife and told her he is feeling very generous and she should ask for anything. This woman said "popcorn" and he laughed. He told her that your husband is feeling generous and you are asking for popcorn. She said, "but that is what I want na. Buy me popcorn."
I just smiled and shook my head because I know many rich people who do not have what he has.
my mom once told me "accountability will always feel like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others" and that shit is real.
FIFA’s broadcast cameras appeared to avoid showing this moment, likely due to rules around political gestures and protests.
But today, Lumumba covered his mouth and mimed a gun to his head in a powerful protest against the silence surrounding the conflict in eastern DR Congo.
One of the world’s most active crises has displaced thousands, and he used the World Cup stage to make sure people could not look away.
This is what true influence looks like. 🇨🇩👏
I recommend using absence to gain your respect back.
I recommend giving a girl your number instead of asking for hers. If she likes you, she will text you.
I recommend building your body, especially your shoulders. You'd be surprised how much more attractive you look with a better frame.
I recommend putting people in their place at the very first sign of disrespect.
I recommend not chasing people. Pay attention to who chooses you.
I recommend leaving rooms where you constantly have to prove your worth.
I recommend being honest from the beginning. Pretending is exhausting.
I recommend saving money before people know you're making money.
I recommend letting people underestimate you.
I recommend taking pictures and videos of your parents more often.
normalize leaving people to avoid empathy burnout. yes, i love you, but i am tired of having to ask you to consider me, and i am tired of you not seeing where you went wrong.
At this big age when people show signs of hidden animosity or weird energy, I just remove myself. I’m not trying to understand you and I’m not trying to make it make sense
Simple habits for a calm life:
- not checking you phone first thing in the morning
- spending 20 min in the morning doing nothing
- going for long walks without music or podcasts
- eating without watching something
- journaling what’s been on your mind
- sitting in silence with your coffee
- saying no without explaining yourself
- doing things without posting them online
- having a hobby you never plan to monetize
- enjoy ordinary moments without needing them to be productive
- creating something with your hands just because it feels good
- listening to your favorite album from start to finish without doing anything else
- building a life you don’t need to escape from
Don’t force life. Flow with it. Move at your own pace in a world addicted to speed. Don’t chase every trend. Don’t follow other's path. You don’t have to want what everyone else wants. Create your own rhythm. Quiet mornings. Slow coffee. Simple meals. Meditation. Long walks with your own thoughts. Books that take weeks to finish. Music that calms you. A small circle of people who feel like home. Live a private life nobody needs to understand. Some people will call it boring. Let them. Depth over noise. Always.
Everybody talks about cutting people off but nobody really talks about the grief that comes with having to stand firm on that decision knowing it’s not what you wanted but what was necessary for your well-being
I hate the fact that whenever you’re demanding for anything from the Lagos state government. It ends up getting into a tribal or political agenda. Bruh, everywhere is dirty and smelling. Let’s fix this thing. Leave Chinedu alone and get to real business.
True lovers know there is no such thing as someone "better," because love itself is what makes a person irreplaceable.
ofc, if you look around long enough, you will always find someone with better looks, money, higher status, intelligence, or a more impressive résumé. But they will not be your person, and that is why those comparisons become meaningless.
Love is what transforms ordinary traits into something sacred and it is why his laugh matters more than another man's beauty, why her voice better than another woman's perfection. The person becomes special because they are loved, not the other way around.
That is why if someone loves you primarily for your looks, money, status, or accomplishments, they do not truly love you, because there will always be someone with more. Desire built upon comparison remains trapped within comparison.
love begins when you are loved for being you, and everything else becomes merely complementary. Love chooses, and then makes that choice incomparable.
Trust me, once you go through pain, failure, rejection, loss, disrespect, loneliness, and heartbreaks alone, you really don’t care who stays in your life anymore.