My avoidant friend spent months complaining that nobody ever stayed. Then he met a girl who actually did. She was consistent, communicated well, didn't play games, and genuinely liked him. At first he was thrilled. Then she started acting like she cared. She'd check in on him, remember little things he told her, ask how he was doing. Normal stuff. That's when he started freaking out. One day he called me and spent 30 minutes explaining how overwhelmed he felt. I asked what she was doing wrong. He said, "Nothing." I thought he meant he couldn't explain it. Nope. He literally meant she was doing nothing wrong. A few weeks later he told her he needed space. She said, "Okay, take all the time you need." Three days later he was annoyed she wasn't texting him. I reminded him that this was exactly what he asked for. He went quiet for a second and said, "Yeah, but I didn't think she'd actually do it." To this day that's the most avoidant thing I've ever heard.
Growing up kind and getting mistreated for it is so wacky because if Iโm the nicest person you know, why are you not treating me better than everyone else??? Why would you be mean to ME and not the mean people???
Did my nails last week and the nail tech didn't give me what I wanted, I told her while she was doing it and she said she'll fix the issue.
When she was done, I noticed it was still the same, I kept quiet, went home and showed others. Everyone noticed the same issue.
So I texted her about it politely, this girl got super worried and kept insisting I come back and I was already far from where she was. She still said I should come, she kept calling, texting and apologizing.
Guess what? When I got there the next day, me and this girl were matching nails ๐๐๐ญ.
She said she has been practicing with her hand.
I felt bad somehow and the funny thing is, she did it perfectly.
She also fixed mine and it was exactly how I wanted it. She was so nice and polite.
The next day I texted her again and the next thing she said after returning my greeting was "Ohhh God"๐๐๐ญ. I told her I liked it and she said her heart was already beating fast ๐๐๐๐๐.
Mind you, she's actually good o, I saw the one she did for someone else and it was so fine, way more complicated than mine.
The fact that she did the exact design on her on hand k!lled me ๐ญ๐.
I'll definitely go back to patronize her because her customer service is 10/10๐.
3 things i don't like when talking to me:
Don't talk to me like I'm your child. Don't talk to me like l'm suppose to be scared of you. And never try to talk to me like I'm stupid. I get hot quick
This generation hides behind โI don't owe anyone anythingโ to avoid accountability. Yes, you do. You owe apologies to those you hurt. Gratitude to those who showed up. Respect to those you disrespected. That's not weakness, that's maturity.
I hate when I think I'm Close to a friend and then I look up and I'm not invited to the parties, functions, graduations, etc. Or you see your friends posting their friends and you're not included... y'all so weird and this is why i stay to myself.