nobody can ever gaslight me into thinking i'm a bad person. i have my ways and my days, but i'm solid, my love is real and genuine every step of the way.
In order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. Not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. You cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you've created.
wearing lingerie just to walk around the house >> to cook dinner >> to sit on the couch with a glass of wine >> to romanticize my own existence
If you offer me a sincere apology and change your behavior, I'll never bring up our past issues again. But if no apology was given and you're still repeating mistakes, you can't ask me to stop mentioning the past. The past is actually the present if you haven't changed.