𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

5. The answer tells her everything because it tells her whether the brain is seeking love or seeking dopamine. Sometimes those are the same thing. Often they’re not.

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

My psychiatrist has one question she asks every ADHD patient who falls in love. Not how long. Not how fast. She asks: “was the relationship exciting before it was stable?”

The answer tells her everything.

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

4. What changes with the name: the pattern can be recognised from inside it. The restlessness in stable love is identifiable as a symptom. The question becomes: how do I maintain enough novelty and activation within the relationship to stay in it — rather than seeking those things outside of it.

[Dia mond @diamonddinshi]

When a man likes you, he talks. When a man values you, he plans. When a man is serious about you, he acts. 1/3

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

@thani22346 Thanks a lot for this

[𝓙𝓔𝓡𝓡𝓞𝓞 @thani22346]

HOW TO KEEP A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

1. Communicate before resentment builds

[Duzz💖💕💰 @thani80862]

My ADHD brain is never where my body is.
At the gym, I'm rewriting an email.
Writing the email, I'm replaying something I said three years ago.
In bed, I'm planning next week.
What actually helps you stay in the room you're in?

[Dia mond @diamonddinshi]

3 TEXTS TO SEND HIM WHEN HE'S TIRED:

1. Make him feel understood. 1/4

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

The couples who make it stop trying to run their home like everyone else.
They split things by strength, set alarms for each other, and build rules that would look strange to anyone else but work perfectly for them.

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

ADHD PEOPLE SHOULDN’T DATE OTHER ADHD PEOPLE.
I’ve heard it a hundred times.

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

HERE’S THE HONEST ANSWER:
the problem isn’t two ADHD brains.
It’s two ADHD brains with no structure.
Without systems, you multiply each other’s chaos. With them, you multiply each other’s fun.

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

6. Someone who finds the ADHD brain interesting rather than exhausting.

Who asks follow-up questions instead of changing the subject. Who stays when the intensity arrives instead of taking a step back.

This one does not feel unreasonable... It just feels like everything.

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

6 NON-SEXUAL THINGS ADHD PEOPLE FIND UNREASONABLY ATTRACTIVE.

You won't spot a single one in a profile pic.

[𝐃𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐃 @X__DONALD]

5. Someone who follows through on small things.

Said they would send that article and actually sent it... They would remember the thing mentioned in passing two weeks ago.

For the ADHD brain, which carries the weight of its own inconsistency, consistency in someone else lands differently than most people expect it to.