I think we villainise incompatibility too much. Not everybody is for you and that's totally fine. Incompatibility isn't harm. The harm comes from forcing connections and the ugliness from that process. Learn to see incompatibility as misalignment and let people go early enough
why does everyone act like assuming good things is delusional but assuming bad things is just "being realistic" both are assumptions. Neither is proven. you might as well pick the one that actually benefits you. Like???
i'm instantly turned off by a man that has very negative opinions about women even if it doesn't apply to me. something very nasty and misogynistic about that spirit that never sat well with me.
oh you’re “brutally honest” but are you ever honest about the good stuff? do you compliment people’s positive traits and behaviors? or do you only open your mouth or fix your fingers to be “honest” when you’ve got something negative on your mind
Shit be dead ass my fault that’s why I just deal with shit & take it to the chin. I swear. Any position I’m in I’m assuming full responsibility because either I did it, or I let somebody else do it to me.
being a self-aware person doesn't mean i view myself as a good person. i think a lot of people get that confused. it literally means that i am vigilant of both my light and dark side. i have also made peace with my flaws even though i'm always working through them
I don’t know if I’m the only one, but books have never felt like words on a page to me.
I see the people. I hear their voices. I watch the scenes happen. 😭
Tell me I’m not the only one whose brain turns reading into cinema.
One of the biggest mistakes that people make in early dating is building attachment faster than they’re building information.
You’re texting all the time, saying good morning and good night, checking in about each other’s days, asking deep questions, sharing stories, sending memes, building a rhythm.
And none of that is bad, but all of it creates attachment. It creates familiarity. It creates bonding, connection, investment.
And the problem is:
You’ll dead ass be tryna be soft and submit to a nigga and he’ll be on his 10th smart remark for the day or just be sitting around provoking you! These niggas do not like peace!
No shade but y'all highkey be jealous of the kids and don't know how to express it other than pretending there's a moral issue somewhere. It's popped out during prom, senior pictures and now dorm decorating. Very weird behavior.