Dishonest people defo can only have shallow connections with people because true intimacy is honesty. You can’t create an intimate environment if you keep lying. If you’re with a person that is dishonest with you, your connection is always going to be surface level until they start to be real. Where there’s no truth, there’s no depth. And where there are lies, there’s no foundation. You’re building a fantasy that they created.
we are in a cowardice epidemic. people avoid making any decisions at all. decisions are commitment and commitment requires the bravery to take responsibility for your desires. they would rather live in a state of possibility and ‘potential’ than run the risk of being wrong.
People don’t understand the impact of a good environment. It can change you in the most profound ways mentally and emotionally. The spaces and people you’re around shape your mindset more than you realize. When your environment is healthy, you respond better to everything.
i actually think "surface level" friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride or die. some friends are for the gym. some are for going out. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. those deep convos and connections are for the 2-3 people closest to you
As a woman I am extremely aware that the reason I have my rights is because a woman somewhere got up, got MOUTHY, organised, raged, made herself INCREDIBLY inconvenient until things changed for the better for all of us. Which is precisely why I see women who uphold the patriarchy as traitors to all women.
“but at the end of the day, i picked you”
“the prize is not being picked. the prize is being respected. if i’m gonna get picked and you lie to me then i’d rather not get picked”
melanie is finally waking up #loveislandusa