Yao Chong

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[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

note to self, do whatever makes you proud, especially when no one's watching

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

ive done what i set out to accomplish and more, proven to myself

[The Cybersecurity guy @cyber__razz]

Watch!

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

@joey_pung jokes aside, you alright?

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

@joey_pung knpe ni lucu sgt 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

I am where I need to be

[PS @dostoevesque]

Self hatred is just narcissism wearing a cheap disguise. You think your failures are uniquely catastrophic, your awkwardness is unprecedented, your face is the most embarrassing anyone has ever seen. That is not humility. Humility means thinking about yourself less, not thinking worse of yourself. What you are doing is inverted grandiosity.

It could be said the same about self pity too. It is just narcissism disguised as depth. It feels deep but it is mostly entitlement in a sad mask. You tell yourself you expect nothing, that you are worthless, yet the theatrical despair betrays a quiet demand. You want someone to disagree. You want the universe to finally acknowledge your hidden value.

It is not that your pain is fake. It is that ordinary discomfort feels unbearable when you have no other way to feel special. The daily frictions of life a rude email, a canceled plan, a mild embarrassment are not enough. So you upgrade them to tragedies. You need a storyline with real weight because a storyline with no weight would reveal the terrifying possibility that you are just another person having a normal Tuesday.

That is the deeper narcissism. You would rather be a tragic hero than a nobody. You would rather be broken in a unique and beautiful way than admit that your problems are mostly the same boring problems everyone has. Self hatred becomes the costume you wear to avoid the plain face of ordinary life. And the joke is that ordinary life, with all its small annoyances and small joys, is where actual peace lives. But you cannot get there as long as you need your suffering to be special. The hard truth is that pain is ordinary and no one is coming to certify your suffering as specially tragic.

The real distinction is between wanting to take responsibility and wanting to be the reason. Taking responsibility fixes what you broke and moves on. Wanting to be the reason clings to guilt like a trophy because being the cause means you still matter. That is the trap. Your self hatred is not a moral position. It is just another way of keeping yourself at the center of every story.

[love drops @lovedropx]

When someone you love offers a bid for connection, you say yes every time. When someone sends you an article, a video, a funny post, it’s a bid for connection. They are trying to connect with you. When someone shares details about their day, their life, their thoughts, or their feelings with you, that is a bid for connection. They want to connect with you on a deeper level. They are trying to pull you into their world. If you love them, you say yes every time. Yes, even if the article they send is not particularly interesting to you. Yes, even if it means listening to them ramble about a game you don’t care about and think is stupid. Yes yes yes. And let’s hope they always say yes to your bids, too.
— Unknown

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

just keep doing what you told yourself to do

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

if you were the moon, she is the sun

[Nostalgia @nostalgiaa]

Carl finding out he was Ellie's adventure all along gets me crying all the time

[Gracie MacNcheese @AtwinGracie2002]

oh how i long to gaze upon thy big honkin badonkers

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

but not as pretty as you are

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

skies so pretty here

[Asanwa.sol @Chizitere_xyz]

Society loves to push the narrative that men are inherently terrified of commitment, that they delay marriage for years strictly because they want to "keep their options open" or play the field.

​The truth is that most men aren't afraid of commitment at all; they are absolutely terrified of failure.
​Society has hardwired men to believe that their entire worth as a husband is tied to their ability to provide an impenetrable financial and logistical fortress. When a man stalls on proposing, it is rarely because he is unsure about the woman. It is almost always because he looks at his bank account, his career trajectory, and his current stability, and feels like an absolute imposter. He believes he has to be a completely "finished product" before he is worthy of leading a family.

Women view marriage as something you build together from the ground up; men view marriage as a finish line they aren't allowed to cross until their resume is perfect. We mistake their deep, internal feeling of inadequacy for a lack of love.

[Adele Bloch @adele_bloch]

everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager

> drive your friends to the airport
> go to their party even when you're tired
> stop cancelling last minute
> host at your place
> support the wins & losses

it's worth every ounce of effort

[k @alfkkifine]

The most terrifying realization a man has as he gets older is that his grace is entirely conditional. If a woman has a career setback, makes a bad financial move, or needs a year to "find herself," she is met with sisterhood, therapy, and endless emotional support. If a man asks for that exact same grace? He is an immediate liability. He is told to step up. His partner's friends will literally advise her to leave him because he's "holding her back." A man is only allowed to fail if he can quietly fix it before anyone notices. The moment his struggle becomes an inconvenience to the people he provides for, the respect vanishes. A lot of men are walking around with the crushing realization that they were never actually loved for who they are; they were just employed for what they provide

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

same dream, different person

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

hardest part of the day is getting started

[Yao Chong @yaochongfoo]

finally keeping the promise i made years ago, though things are different now but what remains of it is more or less the same

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feels so good when your wants and needs are actually being fulfilled instead of just brushing it off