Those two sounds, /l/ and /r/, are what we call 'free variants'. this means, they are different realizations of the same underlying sound, so interchanging them does not result in a change in meaning. Technically, both of you are correct. This also explains why many Akan
@eddie_wrt If it’s not anything shady and malicious then I like this . More of this please . We need more women being empowered by women so it doesn’t seem like a handout.
It’s very easy to slip into the “happy wife/girlfriend, happy life” mode and just keep going with whatever your woman wants just so there’s peace but that will eventually be the reason you resent her. What you want also matters a lot and you deserve a woman who understands that.
Just let her do the talking. If she turns him down twice and he’s still persisting then you step in. It’s your girls job to draw the line and your job to defend that line if crossed.
Don’t even announce the grind. Don’t hype it up and make it some mythical herculean task that you have to undertake just to end up being scared of the process. Don’t set a day for when you plan to start. Just randomly start doing it till it’s routine. Whatever it is. Do it scared, do it uncertain. Just do it.