choosing yourself won’t result in losing the right people. if choosing yourself (setting a boundary/engaging in self-care) results in losing them, question their motivation for being in your life. why does protecting yourself hurt them. what do they gain from your self-neglect.
do your best to not force depth onto someone that simply does not have it. you’ll end up feeling disappointed & empty after most interactions. you are a multi-faceted individual who gets along best with other multi-faceted individuals. sometimes people really only have one face.