I feel like a lot of UK music artists Americanify themselves because it’s the quickest way to commercial success + global influence but actual cultural resonance doesn’t always = highest stream count
You can get whatever you want in life with a clear direction, full conviction, and an iterative feedback loop.
If you’re not making progress, figure out which one you lack.
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i think people sometimes hide their truest selves because rejection feels more painful when it’s actually your deepest true self being rejected. it’s an understandable form of self-protection to avoid that pain, but this also protects you from the deepest forms of friendship and love
for me, a powerful reframe was that finding these kindred spirits is so so worth it. every person who doesn’t resonate is useful information. i’d rather beam the clearest possible signal and be rejected if it means the right people can actually find me
people sometimes date by presenting the most broadly palatable version of themselves. i feel the better strategy is the opposite, as in be as odd and honest as possible, as early as possible
the goal isn’t to have 100 mid first dates. it’s to help the wrong people lose interest faster, and the right person recognise your highly specific signal
-refusing to ask for help
-downplaying your achievements
-isolating yourself instead of communicating
-saying "yes" to everything
-neglecting your own needs
-avoiding important responsibilities
-flooding your mind with negativity
-always chasing perfection
you can spend years not knowing entire layers of reality exist until the right person points at something and suddenly a door appears where there had only been wall
Imo an important part of career clarity is simply committing and locking in and seeing how things go, even if you have many doubts. If you’re looking for perfect certainty, it will remain elusive forever and you will waste valuable time.