Once you no longer romanticize the intellectualization of your dysfunctions, you can quickly get over this type of stuff, but you'll have to relinquish that part of your ego that says your self-analysis actually makes you smart or interesting. A tall order for a lot of y'all.
None of you are self-aware. You are howling narcissists. This woman starts this video off by listing her personality type, attachment style, horoscope, as if borrowed categories add up to a self. You think about yourselves too much and have mistaken it for introspection.
"A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts. So he loses touch with reality, and lives in a world of illusion." - Alan Watts
This quote became a meme. But it's the only real way out of an overthinking rut.
F*ck the balance sometimes. F*ck the perfect discipline.
Go do something unexpected. Take a car to a random part of an island and figure it out when you get there. Start the business everyone says will fail. Stay up until 4am building something just because the idea won't leave you alone. Have awkward social interactions. Just do things without over-analyzing how you did it.
You cannot think your way out of being stuck in your head. You can only 'do' your way out.
The only real measure of intelligence is your ability to manage your own stress. Every day you have a choice to suffer or not, and the way you silence that suffering isn't more thinking. It's doing.
Find beauty in the mundane. Stop talking about your problems and stop replaying them in your head, because all that does is make them bigger.
Zoom out. Have a vision big enough that today's stress feels small.
And accept the fact that maybe things are actually going well. Your life is probably in a far better position than the version of it living in your head.
Le vieux du quartier m’a dit : « N’oublie pas que la boussole a été inventée avant l’horloge parce que la direction est plus importante que le temps. »
the golden rule is that you should rarely if ever try to change anyone’s mind.
this is a fool’s errand cuz it rarely works, & even when it does the belief you installed is way weaker, the person becomes resentful, & everything dynamic from then on becomes borrowed instead of owned.
you can only gently probe until you understand why they arrived at that conclusion. then you must move on like it never happened. this is true for any type of relationship including professional but esp true in romantic dynamics.
software “engineers” are so retarded. TAILSCALE. VPS. DISABLE SLEEP WHEN YOU SHUT THE LID. what is wrong with these idiots a fucking ELECTRICAL ENGINEER has to explain this to you
🚨⚪️ José Mourinho’s return to Real Madrid now advancing to the final stages. Talks are progressing well.
Final approval from Florentino Pérez still needed + likely to wait until the elections…
…but Mourinho is ready and talks have been productive.
@theashleyray When I moved out at 18, I felt free until the past hit me like a ton of bricks & I had to glue pieces of myself back together while adulthood was like wind blowing away the pieces & I had to chase them