genuinely brought tears to my eyes man. I and so many of my fellow Americans can relate to his fatigue. It feels like the US is the perpetrator of evil in international conflict right now. 99% of Americans I know are vehemently against what is happening, but feel helpless when it comes to being able to make change. its important to remember what makes us American. our kindness, the way we create community, and the way we look out for out neighbor. it can be hard to feel proud to be American right now - this is a great reminder that the actions of our corrupt leadership do not represent the hears and souls of the American people. thanks for sharing my friend.
Last Friday, at an izakaya in Tokyo, my American coworker said something I can't stop thinking about.
His name is Ben. He's 50. From Georgia. He's lived in Tokyo for twelve years.
He'd been reading the news all week. Three beers in, he put his glass down and said:
"I don't think we're good people anymore."
He wasn't joking. He looked tired in a way I had never seen.
I'm Japanese. I've been watching Americans in Japan for twenty years. So I told him what I've seen.
In March 2011, after the tsunami, America sent 24,000 people. Sailors. Marines. Pilots. They called it Operation Tomodachi. Tomodachi means "friend." They helped dig out the airport in Sendai so the relief planes could land. My mother watched it on TV and cried. She still calls American sailors "the tomodachi boys."
Last spring, at Shinjuku Station, I watched an American tourist with his own giant suitcase carry a stranger's baby stroller up forty steps. Then he went back down and carried the next one. Then the next one. He stayed on those stairs for twenty minutes. His wife waited at the top, holding his suitcase, not even surprised.
At a convenience store near my office, an old man was thirty yen short. The American behind him put the coins on the counter before anyone could feel embarrassed. Then he went back to looking at his phone like nothing happened.
Every January, there's a big relay race here called Hakone Ekiden. One year, I stood near the course. The last runner came through, far behind everyone. The Japanese crowd had already started to leave. One American family was still there. Mom, dad, three kids. They screamed for him like he was winning.
He wasn't. He looked up at them anyway. He ran faster.
Ben listened to all of it. Then he shook his head.
"That's just a few people."
"Yes," I said. "It's always just a few people. But everywhere I look, there they are."
He didn't say anything.
So I told him what I really think.
Americans keep telling me they've lost something. Their kindness. Their decency. The country they used to be.
But you look exactly like my father looking for his car keys.
Patting every pocket. Checking the kitchen. Asking everyone in the house. Getting more and more upset.
While the keys are in his hand.
Ben laughed. A real laugh, the first one all night.
Then he put his face in his hands and cried a little. Right there, in the izakaya. The salarymen at the next table pretended not to notice, which is the most Japanese kindness there is.
So, America.
You didn't lose it.
You're just holding it while you look for it.
This is the America I was born & raised in. This is what makes us American. Be the American that Japanese people think you are. We need to be American now more than ever.
There's a saying on American social media:
"Be the American that Japanese people think you are."
I'm Japanese. I've lived in Tokyo my whole life.
So let me tell you what we actually say about you, when you're not in the room.
"When someone falls down on the street, we pretend not to see. We're protecting their pride. Americans run straight at them. They don't care about the pride. They care about the knee." (Office worker, 38)
"An American will stop four lanes of traffic for a family of ducks. And then everyone in the cars claps for the ducks." (Taxi driver, 61)
"If you lend an American a pen, you will never see it again. If you need a kidney, they'll ask your blood type." (Nurse, 45)
"At kids' soccer games, they cheer when the other team's kid scores. The other team's parents look confused. Then they cheer too." (Youth soccer coach, 52, lived one year in Ohio)
"A man sneezed on a bus in Chicago. Eleven strangers said 'Bless you.' He said 'thank you' eleven times. Nobody on that bus thought this was strange." (University student, 21)
"At an airport in Texas, I watched a soldier try to pay for his lunch. The cashier said someone already had. He asked who. She said, 'Somebody who didn't want you to know.'" (Retired teacher, 70)
"American fathers cannot braid hair. But they will watch a video at midnight for an hour so their daughter's hair looks right on picture day." (Hair stylist, 33)
"I ran the Chicago Marathon once. Strangers stood in the cold for hours holding signs for people they will never meet. At mile 20, a man I'd never seen read the name off my bib and screamed it like he'd raised me." (Runner, 48)
"When Americans get lost, they ask a stranger. If the stranger is also lost, they become a team." (Tour guide, 39)
"They ask the waitress her name. And then they remember it." (Restaurant owner, 66)
And one more. From my father. He's 76. He doesn't say much about anything. This is the longest thing I have ever heard him say about another country.
"Every time something terrible happens in America, I watch the news, and I look for one thing.
The people running toward it.
There are always so many."
So, America.
You don't have to become the Americans we think you are.
We're not imagining you.
We're remembering you.
@hxntr3ss_@88_88Hokkaido@Kolten2TheM00N Yes, SF is where people are most forward thinking / most aggressive with shipping agents to prod. Itโs the best place for us to do business, indeed.