Anu

Orthodontic Resident | Selectively social | Becoming secure

[✰ @SoftButToxic]

"Men are providers" yeah of mental illness

[that girl. 👁‍🗨 @RozayJanae]

Banter & wittiness is such a dying art because people don’t read and lack nuance. But I just loveee when I can be facetious with someone and they GET IT.

[Libriscent @libriscent]

the fastest way to see someone’s true character is to disappoint them a little. watch how they react when they don’t get their way, when you say no, or when you set a boundary. that’s when the mask usually slips.

[Dia mond @fvckdiamond]

No one talks about how relaxing it is to talk to an emotionally intelligent and regulated person.

[Henry @Henry404gd]

No one talks about how draining it is when your mood is constantly switching between 'its okay, I don't care, I'll be okay' and 'I don't know how much more I can take'

[n @onlywithn]

i think you just have to decide one day that you can't drown in it anymore

[komolika @Ichanpyaari]

sanitary pad ads have RUINED period care by convincing women that the periods means jumping, running, climbing mountains and working out heavily.

periods come with pain, fatigue, mood swings and discomfort and body needs REST.
pad absorbs BLOOD. It doesn't absorb the PAIN.

[Nathan @OIuwatosin]

People underestimate how much stress is accumulated in your body when you repeatedly ignore what you know you need to do

[𝓢𝓱𝓪𝔂𝔂𝔂 🧚🏾‍♀️✨✨ @_iamhershayyy]

“You’re so laid back.”
Thanks. If I lean forward, I’m going to jail.

[The Kaipullai @thekaipullai]

I was watching The Last Samurai today and it made me realize how fascinating a country Japan is and how resilient and determined it is as a society.

Till 1868 they were a feudal, agrarian, peasant driven society largely isolated from the world.

In 1868, an event called Meiji Restoration happened, where the entire country came under the imperial throne under Emperor Meiji.

This led to the westernization of Japan.

40 years later, in 1905, they humiliated a legit western power Russia in battle and outmatched them strategically and technologically.

Battle of Tsushima was so one sided and it annihilated the Russians so badly, it makes the 2026 FIFA World Cup final look competitive.

In 1914, they sided with the Allies and defeated Germany in battle in the Far East.

By 1941, they had out navied England and almost Out Navied the USA and, a fact which was unthinkable in the 20s and 30s and entered the World War against them.

They over ran most of South East Asia and landed some really bloody blows to the USA, a country that was almost 50 times bigger.

By 1945, the entire country was literally burnt to the ground. Most of their cities were ash and cinders. Most of their youth, dead in far off islands.

That country was actually reduced to nothing.

Yet in the next 30 years, they became one of the largest economies in the world.

They don't have oil. They don't have any valuable natural resources. They are isolated and prone to natural disasters.

If the placement of countries was a deck of cards, Japan has been dealt with probably the worst hand of all.

Yet, thru sheer power of their will and determination, they find a way to progress and dominate.

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

Major cheat code for life: Always having something on the calendar you're excited about. It can really be anything. Difficult physical challenge, big project, fun trip, ambitious goal, whatever. It creates energy. It promotes structure. It carries you through the lows. Life hack.

[✪ Felippe @FelippeRegazio]

:S

[Words & Wisdom @WordsnWisdom26]

“I want to talk about everything with at least one person the way I talk about things with myself.”

— Fyodor Dostoevsky

[Carlos That Notices Things @QuetzalPhoenix]

Monthly reminder that women want to be taken on an adventure, even if the adventure is "let's go to the cheese store"

[Sudhir Srinivasan @sudhirsrinivasn]

Many thoughts on #DC (possible spoilers):
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What pleasure it is to hear Anirudh in form inside a theatre. What pleasure it is to watch him dictate pace, to watch him orchestrate mass moments with his choice of music. It’s incredible that the very first strains of Raga of Revenge around the interval are enough to create such loud anticipation in the theatre that whatever follows, visually, almost feels like a bonus. The music is a main course here. DC is full of great tracks, and you already know this; in this film, they act as lifelines, punctuating and accentuating this violent film with emotion and swagger.

With Arun Matheswaran, you always know you’ll get style of the visual variety. You expect him to play with light and shadow. Wamiqa’s Chandra, in particular, seems to arrive wrapped in many visual ideas. In one shot, she’s swallowed by darkness, only the line of her hair catching the light like a silver lining. The metaphor writes itself. In another, she gets a glorious mass moment as she storms into a police stronghold. And then there’s that wide shot in the water, where Chandra and Lokesh’s Devadas seem like the only two people left in the world... which, for them, they probably are. It’s such a beautiful image. In Arun’s films, you’re always going to get memorable imagery like this, and sometimes that’s reward enough.

But this time, he’s further got the backing of one of cinema’s most time-tested protagonist archetypes: the Devdas™. “Dhevadhaas,” as Lokesh puts it. This character type will remain relevant so long as there’s love to be lost and loneliness to be felt. I’d never considered this before, but sometimes, there’s something strangely comforting about watching someone suffer in cinema, like a reminder that you aren't the only one.

Loki’s Devadas knows exactly what I mean because the women he’s drawn to seem to be carrying as much suffering as he is, as much trauma as he is. Sanjana’s Parvathi sings of melancholia: Uravugal Thodarkadhai, Nilave Ennidam Nerungaadhe… Every time she sings, it feels as though something inside her breaks more. That's the idea anyway. I suspect Devadas isn’t too different. Every time he hurts someone, something inside him seems to fracture. He even registers this in that conversation with her where he admits that unlike her, he doesn’t enjoy what he does. When you’re hurt inside, it feels like you have only two paths: hurt yourself, or hurt the world. Parvathi chooses the former. Devadas, it seems, chooses the latter. I like that there’s enough in this film to warrant such meditation.

Devadas might have rebounded to Chandra (Wamiqa) because she ‘looks’ like Parvathi. But the truth is, she resembles him in a far deeper way even if he doesn't recognise it immediately. She’s reeling under as much grief and pain as he is. And I’ve always been a sucker for the hopeful idea that when you rescue someone else, you inadvertently rescue yourself too. In DC, Chandra is like a hurt puppy who knows almost nothing of the world, nothing of what freedom even looks like. Watch her stare at the sun as though she’s seeing daylight for the first time. Watch her mimic Devadas, believing, quite understandably, that his violent ways are simply how one escapes pain. So when Devadas’ friends begin to consider abandoning him, you can immediately understand why Chandra can’t, why Chandra won't. He was the light that found her in darkness.

I also loved the way Wamiqa handles a gun in this film: awkwardly, passionately, almost maniacally. She has so much archived pain that the bullets never seem enough. Watch her completely lose herself after killing that doctor. Only Devadas could have brought her back from that place… and he does.

Lokesh Kanagaraj is a fantastic fit for this protagonist, and DC makes for such an impressive acting debut. He struts around, this trigger-happy man of few words, with swagger, his unruly curls giving him the silhouette of an uncaged lion. I especially liked him in the smaller moments. The split second where he first catches sight of Chandra and almost sees Parvathi in her. The few seconds it takes him to register that Chandra has come in guns blazing for him. For once, and perhaps even for the first time, someone else is rescuing him. The wonderfully casual way he smashes a carrom board over someone’s head before saying, “Ipdi dhaan board aada varum.” Even something as simple as “Ava peru Chandra da…” lands with surprising force.

This Devadas is likeable because even though he drinks, even though he’s miserable, even though he’s unkempt, he’s no sloucher. He’s a man of action, partly because of the restlessness within him, but also because the establishment refuses to let him stand still. Once Chandra becomes his companion, the film quietly begins flirting with Bonnie and Clyde. Not in plot, but in spirit. Two damaged lovers discovering that the only place they truly belong is beside each other, guns in hand, with the world closing in around them. Arun shoots them accordingly too. One particularly striking image has them emerging from smoke, firing into the unknown, looking less like outlaws than two people who have finally found somewhere they can call home. Honestly, I wouldn’t mind following these two for another film, no matter where they go.

Perhaps Kitty’s constant irritability does become a little repetitive. Perhaps that father angle doesn’t land as emotionally as it ought to. Perhaps the education thread doesn’t feel quite as central to the film as it seems to believe. But none of this seriously dampens a film whose violence becomes catharsis not just for Devadas, but for us too.

My favourite idea in the film arrives when Devadas and gang have run out of money, and Chandra devises a beautiful plan that preys on the dual nature of her male clients, on their shame. In that passage, you realise that while she’s the sex worker condemned by everyone around her, she’s perhaps the only one with a truly clear conscience. Society often likes to define purity through profession, body count, sexual desire, even one’s tendency towards violence. Sometimes it has nothing to do with any of that. Sometimes purity is simply having the instinct to save another human being just because you can. And who knows? Like Devadas, you might discover that in saving someone else, you were quietly saving yourself all along.

[T @dfwtee_]

btw it's so fucking stupid you can be anxious physically in your body even after you've decided mentally you don't care. I'm supposed to be in charge here.

[kiky☁️ @kikynium]

i dont understand where the stereotype that women talk too much comes from. like have you ever been around men???? they never shut the fuck up