Without saying too much, if you have serious generational wealth goals, it might be smart to read up on some history regarding decaying/dissolving empires, who did best during those times and how. Might give you some valuable ideas that could potentially save you.
This actually isn't the worst I've seen. I read last year about an app used to assign shifts to nurses and other healthcare professionals, which draws their credit score data from Experian, and then uses that to calculate how much to offer per shift.
Essentially, the lower the credit score, the more desperate to make money the nurse is deemed, and the lower the pay they are offered. I mean it is one thing to do this gamified capitalism bullshit to delivery drivers and Ubers, but it is another thing entirely to turn payment for lifesaving healthcare professionals into the Hunger Games.
And once I understood that capitalism has no safety rails and no adults in the room, and the animating philosophy of the rich white men behind it has not changed one single bit since they used to farm free labour and call human beings "property", I abandoned the idea of negotiating with it or reforming it.
It really is just a stupid system invented by white men who would happily turn off the sun if doing so would boost their Q3 EBITDA 15%.
When you have your first child, or if you have your first born already, these are the things you should know:
1) First borns do not directly have someone before them, whose templates they learn from.
So they will be the one that will do a lot of firsts.
First to hit puberty
First to show signs of adolescence rebellion.
First to start staying out late at nights
First to get into the kitchen and understand their parents style of food, etc
Lots of firsts.
It's when they've done this, that their siblings coming after them, now have a template. And they now know some crucial things, because their first born was the first to go through them.
So you have to be very understanding of this, as a parent.
You will see 2 last born parents, that didn't have experiences of being a first born, coming to heavily judge their first borns, without knowing the immerse pressure on them to experience lots of firsts.
So as a parent or intending parent, kindly know this.
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2) While the other siblings are mostly shielded from the reality of things at home, especially finances.... First borns are very aware.
And most times, they have to be the ones to take their younger siblings minds, off the reality that daddy and mummy are facing at home.
No food in the house
No money to go to school
No money for school fees sef
The father's job is shaking
The mother isn't seeing sales
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It's the first borns that know of these, and will now try to keep the younger ones company, to indirectly reduce the intensity of the reality that's giving their parents a very hard time.
For every No their parents say, it's the first borns that mostly try to break it down further to deliberately reduce the intensity of what's going on. While dealing with it themselves.
This is why many first borns get really depressed. Especially if they are trying to help, but it's futile.
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So please, when telling your first borns the reality of things at home, you have to understand that no matter how mature they act, they are still your children.
And it's equally very hard on them as well.
So you have to do the same baby treatment you give their siblings.
Hug them. Take them out. Buy nice cute things for them.
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Don't let them feel like taking on adulthood duties, when they are just adolescents.
If they feel like adults at 13/14 years...then when they reach adulthood, they might start seeing patterns they won't like.
Tell them things. But also treat them like your kids. Like children. Like teenagers.
They need that warmth and closure as well.
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3) Get good mentors and roles models for your first born, at a very early age.
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Like I said earlier, your first born doesn't have a direct template, as per no sibling before them.
They will enter lots of pits and make lots of first time mistakes.
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That's why you need to get a strong figure for them to look up to.
Get them these books of these people. Tell them more about these people.
If you can be the mentor, then be the mentor. It's even better if you are.
They reallyy need that mentor figure at a very early point of their lives.
And a lot of first borns unfortunately, do not have this.
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I will stop here for now and continue later on. Dropping more crucial things to know as a parent, for your first born.
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Listen up, you gullible sheep swallowing government propaganda: Claiming "the first ₦800,000 is tax-free" in a parasitic hellhole like Nigeria where they pile on PIT, VAT, consumption taxes, import duties, state levies, company taxes, and endless hidden fees is a blatant scam to distract from the bloodsucking reality.
It's not "free" it's just the tiniest crumb before the multi-layered tax vampire sinks its fangs in deeper. Wake the fuck up; real lessons in exploitation will shatter your brainwashed delusions.
@fretalle@jon_d_doe Look at his face. It’s content and he obviously knows the car safety abilities. He’ll buy another with the proceeds from the attention.
The correct response to rejection is nothing.
No emotional response, negative or positive.
Simply thank them for their time, and exit as quickly, and politely, as possible.
This applies to seduction, sales, job interviews, ect.
You will be tempted to show that you are doing well, but it is important you resist the urge to perform for an audience that don’t matter - and maybe isn’t even watching
I've lot of interesting informations i bookmarked, and i haven't gone through any of them, am lazy, haha... maybe when the right time comes, i'll do that.
You will always have a choice.
Yes, you🫵🏾. I am talking to you.
Figure out your purpose, and yoke your cause with those who align with it.
The mind is the game changer.
You can't be a higher thinker/dreamer and be involved with a small mind.
Learn or learn the hard way.
A short while ago, a relative visited my home. Her timing coincided with my children’s return to Nigeria for their summer break. While I was occupied with a demanding schedule, she seized the opportunity to initiate a campaign of indoctrination behind my back, instructing my young children (ages eight, six, and four) that “Jesus is the truth, the way, and the life.”
Yesterday, however, was Nkwo market day, which afforded me a rare moment at home. I sat down with my family for lunch. In our household, we observe a traditional libation, a prayer of gratitude for sustenance, which we recite in unison before eating.
As we gathered at the dinning, I waited for my eldest to begin the familiar words. Instead, what I heard was: “We sanctify this food through Jesus Christ; Amen.” He then giggled and asked, “Aunty is crazy, right?” their mum lost it!!!!
In that moment, something in me broke.
I instructed every single person in the house to assemble downstairs in the first sitting room immediately. My voice was steel and in rage. “Who taught my children this nonsense?” I demanded. I was certain it did not originate from their school in Mexico, where religion is regarded with utter indifference.
As expected, a chorus of denials erupted, including from the aunt in question. But my children are raised with an uncompromising principle: truthfulness is non-negotiable, regardless of the situation. I fixed my gaze on them and said, “Show me who taught you that.” Without hesitation, they identified their aunt.
My response was swift and final. I did an immediate bank transfer to her account and instructed her to leave my home. I made it unequivocally clear she is never to come near my family again.
This incident underscores a profound sickness within the modern Igbo psyche: the compulsion to act as Assistant Jesus.
How does one possess the audacity to enter another’s home and deliberately subvert a carefully maintained balance, all without my consent? How do you look at children being raised by a traditionalist/Odinala person/a priest of divine odinala and label it evil, while simultaneously benefiting from the wealth of the practitioner who is funding the university education of four of your own children?
Our people have become so deeply entangled in the vestiges of colonial mentality that we are estranged from our own essence. There is a palpable shame in bearing authentic, full Igbo names, a rejection of our identity at its most fundamental level.
Conversely, observe the Yoruba and their Iseese tradition. It commands respect across the global south because they first cultivated a genuine love for it themselves, then proudly exported it. Even their Christian leaders largely refrain from maligning their indigenous spiritual roots.
It is beyond time for us to evolve. We must mature beyond this self-imposed inferiority and reclaim the leadership that is our birthright in this era.
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