your brain will never believe you are capable of doing hard and great things until you repeatedly do hard things and survive the hard outcomes. this is how you train your brain and how neuroplasticity works.
If the only time you call someone is when you need something, eventually your name becomes a request. You cannot keep withdrawing from relationships you never deposit into.
The giver may keep helping, opening doors, and creating opportunities. Eventually, they will find reasons why they cannot anymore. Reciprocity is a currency.
Call without needing. Bring an opportunity. Share information. Make an introduction. Give something back. Stop building your life around takers’ habits. Build the muscle of reciprocity. Even generous relationships eventually run out when all you do is withdraw.
You are allowed to leave a conversation when it becomes disrespectful. You are allowed to take time before responding. You are allowed to put your wellbeing first.
Adulthood is not the collection of adult-looking things. It is the development of adult capacity. I am afraid, lately, some people have no capacity of adulthood.
Kyoka bogerera waggulu.
Every day, I realise more and more that I just have to do something long enough to become very good at it. A lot of what we call genius today is simply a product of repetition.
I have children who are now grown, and I understand that I cannot try to be possessive with them. I should encourage them to go out and build relationships.
But sometimes cultural institutions can act like possessive parents, saying, “You are my people, don’t go ”.That, to me, is poor parenting- President Yoweri Museveni
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Tip Of The Day:
To avoid getting lost, do not imitate others, do not compare your life to that of others, challenge no one but yourself, and do not criticize what you have not lived through. ~Mark Twain