This is brutal but it's true
I've never known anyone who was single for a long time who didn't deserve to be
I don't mean because they are bad people
But that when you look closely, their life is a really effective system for remaining alone:
- They don't meet anyone
- They ignore people who express interest
- They reject the people available to them
- They obsess about people who aren't available
- They have insane "standards" for others yet simultaneously never require anything more from themselves
- They're still in love with an ex and haven't admitted this to themselves, or grieved or even tried doing anything about it
- Their lifestyle sets them up to be a complete weirdo (computer all day scrolling ragebait tweets on X, watching porn, etc) and develop insane attitudes + rationalizations that they never challenge
- They spend their time doing "self development" like going to the gym, meditating, recently popular things like looksmaxxing, etc, with the idea of becoming "ready" one day. Yet ready never arrives, and they never actually increase the amount of action they are taking. The things they do is a way to justify not facing fear of rejection
Yet they do all this while claiming they "want love" and saying "I tried their best, it just didn't work!"
But the explanation 99.99% of the time isn't that it's just a brutal world out there and you're a poor little victim condemned to eternal aloneness
It's that something on the list above identified your exact issue
That you're single on purpose, because it's a logical inevitably from the way you live
But right now you're far more committed to lying to yourself to protect your self image than actually doing anything about it
@THEORTHOCHAT What are you even trying to say? That is the way, that's why they want dialoge with Anthropic, a global AI leader, to try aligning with that way. Simply typing it out doesn't do anything
@poperespecter1@MikeBurmy Not a good look to post that unprovoked man... it's no different from the bait posts on the Catholic church. Orthodox are the closest to us theologically, no need to stir stuff up
@normalcreature9 you've been pretty charitable in your replies...a lot of the trad guys that populate this app don't seem to understand how to engage with an honest perspective. The divide will keep getting wider until we can
@milllk_man@Prodigal_Bro@normalcreature9 That's not true mate, if you actually contemplate what it requires and intend to live it fully according to the faith, most reasonable women living in our time would find it daunting and scary. Better to be honest with yourself and seek advice