Barry Nortjé

Pattern Breaker Coach
Helping high-performing professionals break unconscious patterns.
Psychology • Identity • Freedom

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@MindWithVedanta Yep exactly

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@MindWithVedanta I'd consider that winning the battle but losing the war

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@thought_harbor Develops the trait of being anti-fragile

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@Lilly7862 Sounds like a solid principle. Guess I will be seeing whether it's true in the next year

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@wisdomXplorer I disagree a bit - having developed depth of awareness leads to understanding & understanding naturally gives the patience for all situations.

Patience isnt the "thing", rather depth if awareness.

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@dadinthearena @shubhvanii For me its that (connecting with a loved one) building something & having a work out

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@sharran The law of reciprocity / reaping what you sow

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Your emotions aren't the enemy.

They're information.

Anxiety tells you where you don't feel safe.
Anger shows you where your boundaries were crossed.
Shame points to the parts of yourself you've learned to reject.

Stop asking, "How do I get rid of this?"
Start asking, "What's it trying to show me?"

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Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to change yourself, the more stuck you seem to become?

Most people think transformation comes from trying harder.

But often the effort itself is the problem.

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@thejustinwelsh Busy testing the truth of this statement. Lets see how it goes by next year this time

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@stijnnoorman In the process of doing exactly this

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@LewisHowes Often bad habits are old coping mechanisms to keep you safe from failure, embarassment, "death" - until you heal/resolve the underlying emotional mechanics it'll be difficult to have them align with your dreams

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@stijnnoorman @Dwriteway What got you through this phase?

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@Dwriteway I'm still developing this / going through it for the first time

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When Salary/Revenue decreases or remains the same
As an employee = powerless
As an entrepreneur = up to you to do something about it

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@dadinthearena Necessity is the mother of invention lol

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@Lilly7862 Realising (trully accepting) that your life will end, allows a shift in perspective to truly prioritise correctly.

For some that's health & family, for others its respect, fame, accolades - no right or wrong here. What is important IS knowing what you want to invest time into

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@stijnnoorman Took me a long tims to realise that it's only too late when you're dead. Until then everything is fair game

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@dane_works @stijnnoorman The thing you've been putting off on taking action on: job cjange, project, hobby, relationship, talking to someone, working iut, losing fat etc