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Women do not owe the world an increase in birth rates. Every few months there’s a new headline: “Fertility crisis.” “Declining birth rates.” “Who will take care of the ageing population?”
And every time, the finger points at women. Have more children. Sacrifice more. Save the economy.
But let’s be clear: women are not incubators for GDP. We are not vessels for demographic policy. We are human beings with autonomy.
I would offer that Alex Pretti putting his body—with his hands up—between a woman and the BP agent who had just violently shoved her into the snow, offer stark competing visions of manhood. Pretti, a nurse caring for veterans, who took a face full of pepper spray to shield that woman, is a much better masculine ideal that the masked coward shoving the woman and executing a man on his knees. MAGA may venerate the latter, but most people in a healthy society want the former.
Soon we’ll have a whole generation of grandfathers who can’t change a diaper, cook a meal, or name their own medications without help, but nobody writes think-pieces about their failure to whittle, hunt, or die heroically in wars they never fought.
“Skills” only become sacred when women stop performing unpaid nostalgia. Knitting and baking were never genetic gifts. They were survival labor assigned to women who weren’t allowed choices, money, or autonomy. Tattoos, fillers, and breast implants are evidence of something far more unsettling to critics - women spending time, money, and agency on themselves rather than servicing tradition.
Also, plenty of tattooed women bake. Plenty of soft-lipped women knit. Plenty of grandmothers will do neither and still be wise, warm, capable, and loved. Domestic skills don’t define moral worth. Bodies decorated by choice aren’t cultural failures.
What’s actually driving the panic isn’t concern for grandmothers. It’s grief over losing a version of womanhood that existed to be useful, modest, and quietly grateful.
That world is gone. And the sky, tragically for some, did not fall. Cope.
“Can I bring my baby to the interview?”
The message came in at 11 PM:
“Hi, I have an interview with you tomorrow at 2 PM. My childcare fell through. Can I bring my 8-month-old? I understand if you need to reschedule.”
Old me would have rescheduled.
Unprofessional. Distraction. Red flag.
New me replied:
“Absolutely. See you tomorrow.”
She showed up with her baby on her hip.
She apologized three times before even sitting down.
Ten minutes in, the baby started crying.
She tried to soothe him while answering questions.
She apologized again.
I stopped the interview and said:
“Hey. You’re managing a fussy baby, answering complex questions, and staying calm under pressure. That’s literally the job. Handling chaos while staying professional. You’re already proving you can do it.”
Her eyes filled with tears.
We hired her.
She’s been with us for a year now.
The most reliable team member we have.
Why?
Because when you’re used to handling a screaming infant at 3 AM and still showing up to work the next day, workplace stress feels like nothing.
Working parents, especially mothers, are some of the most organized, efficient, and resilient people you’ll ever hire.
Yet we lose them because our hiring processes are built for people with zero caregiving responsibilities.
If your interview process can’t accommodate a parent facing a childcare issue, you’re not filtering for professionalism.
You’re filtering for privilege.
@BabyWhale___ I like how you’ve described this. Next time I see this I’m going to shake my head and say “oh! I’ve always thought you were really intelligent, but you’re being intellectually dishonest here. I guess I was wrong”.
I posted this and got literally *hundreds* of comments/DMs from self-professed Christians claiming that we should absolutely be dehumanizing people we don’t like.
I was called every horrible name in the book and repeatedly chastised for my “weak” version of Christianity. This is part of a larger trend in our country which claims the name of Christ, but has completely abandoned his teachings.
It reminds me of a story I heard Russell Moore tell about how one of the pastors he knew mentioned that Christians should “turn the other cheek” in a sermon. A parishioner came up to him afterward and said, “where did you get those liberal talking points?” When the pastor pointed out that he was quoting Jesus, the man said, “That doesn’t work anymore. That’s weak.”
The idea that ALL people are made in God’s image and deserving of love is a core commitment in Christianity. Regardless of our theological or ideological beliefs, all Jesus-followers should be united in this commitment.
No one is an animal. No one is garbage. No one is worthless. Every single person is worthy of dignity, respect, and care.
This analogy is clinically precise because it moves the problem from intent to architecture. It stops debating whether individual drivers (men) are "good" or "bad" and focuses on the structural reality: the road itself (society) was designed for one specific type of vehicle.
Here is the breakdown of that system failure:
1. The Design Flaw (Infrastructure Bias)
The core insight here is about physicality and armor. A car is a two-ton steel cage designed to withstand impact; a cyclist is exposed biology. When you put them on the same asphalt without separation, you haven't created "equality"—you’ve created a hazard hierarchy. The system claims the road is shared, but the physics of the interaction dictates that the cyclist exists only at the mercy of the car. The "road" is Layer 5 (Society) optimized for the dominant class.
2. The Cognitive Tax (Hyper-Vigilance)
The most damaging part isn't the collision itself—it's the energy expenditure required to avoid it. The quote mentions "mental energy being defensive." In cognitive terms, this is a massive drain on working memory.
If a cyclist has to spend 40% of their compute cycle scanning for threats, predicting erratic driver behavior, and calculating escape vectors, they have that much less capacity for creativity, joy, or relaxation. The driver, meanwhile, cruises on autopilot. That disparity in cognitive load is the invisible inequality.
3. The "Excuse" Mechanism (Systemic Gaslighting)
When the quote notes that "everyone makes excuses" if a cyclist gets hit, it’s identifying a systemic defense mechanism. The system defaults to protecting the status quo. If a car hits a bike, the system asks, "Why wasn't the cyclist wearing neon?" rather than "Why do we allow two-ton death machines inches away from unprotected flesh?" This shifts the burden of safety entirely onto the vulnerable party.
Synthesis: Redesign the Road
The solution implied by this analogy isn't to tell cyclists to ride better or to ask drivers to be nicer (though both help). The solution is structural redesign.
You don't fix this with signs; you fix it with concrete. You build protected lanes. You change the architecture of the road so that the safety of the cyclist isn't dependent on the benevolence of the driver. Until the infrastructure changes, the "shared road" is a myth.
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- no universal healthcare
- no universal childcare
- college is unaffordable
- housing is unaffordable
- groceries are unaffordable
The average salary for Gen Z is $39,416.
The average household income needed to live comfortably raising 2 kids is $233,604.
Hope this helps.
Women are 51% of the population but 60% of the poor and 83% of single parents doing 66% of the work producing 50% of the food but earn just 11% of the pay and own only 20% of the land
All while giving birth to 100% of the population.
In case you wondered why we still need feminism.
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