Bernard Busuulwa

9 November 1979

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

A living social horror that is spreading quite fast in our communities...very sad indeed!!

[kasibante Hassan (RDC) @HassanDemeyer]

Something is not adding up in our homes and families.

Many married men in Kampala rent separate apartments—not necessarily to keep other women, but simply to find peace, rest and personal space. Some abandon luxurious homes they built with millions, while those who cannot afford another apartment keep a separate mattress somewhere within the same household.

What is really happening in our homes? How did marriage, which should provide love, comfort and peace, become a source of fear, pressure and emotional distress?

We must have an honest conversation about the growing nightmare inside many families.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

Very sobering thoughts indeed!!

[The Husky @Mr_Husky1]

One day, your house will be quiet.

Someone else will open your closets, your drawers, your garage, and go through everything you spent years collecting.

The watch you were afraid to scratch.
The car you worked overtime to afford.
The shoes you kept in the box.
The clothes you were saving for a "special occasion."
The gadgets, furniture, decorations, and all the little things that once felt important.

They'll sort it into three piles:

Keep.
Sell.
Throw away.

And life will move on.

None of those things will follow you.

What remains isn't what you owned. It's what you lived.

The late-night conversations that lasted until sunrise.
The family dinners where everyone laughed so hard they couldn't breathe.
The road trips that didn't go according to plan but became your favorite memories.
The unexpected visit that made your mother's entire week.
The hugs, the friendships, the love, the moments when you were fully present.

Years from now, nobody will remember how much stuff you had.

They'll remember how you made them feel.

So buy the gift.
Take the trip.
Make the phone call.
Visit the people you keep saying you'll see "someday."

Don't spend your whole life collecting possessions.

Collect memories.
Collect experiences.
Collect moments with the people you love.

Those are the only things that never lose their value.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

Tough wisdom for some folks out there!!

[The married man @marriedmn]

I I see a lot of people in marriages with kids, but they live in separate rooms in the house because the relationship is slowly dying.

Somebody's trying to work on it. One person wants to make the effort, the other one doesn't. You sleep in separate beds, but the excuse you have is to stay for the kids.

But why?

Why do you choose to stay for the kids? What are the kids gonna benefit out of this broken home? To watch their mother depressed, to watch their father depressed, to watch two people argue, to be in a home where it's always quiet, no one's talking to each other, they're living separate lives.

How is that fair for you to be in that marriage? How is it fair for your kids to be in that type of situation?
Don't use the kids as an excuse for you to stay, and don't think that things will change and they will realize. Two to three years later, you're gonna realize that it's never gonna change. It's gonna be the same. You'll be living in chaos in a broken home, and your kids are gonna see that and pick up things that you never wanted them to ever learn.
You don't want to normalize a terrible, chaotic relationship. Don't use the kids as an excuse. Don't

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

Loud and clear!!

[The married man @marriedmn]

If you want to get married because you think it is all love, sex, and happy moments, I am here to warn you. You are in for a rude shock.

Marriage is also bills, tired nights, disagreements, in-laws, silence, responsibility, and days when you don’t even like each other. The romance doesn't stay forever, you will fight some days.

If you are only prepared for the sweet part, the disagreement and boring part will break you.

Marry because you are ready to build, lead, forgive, and endure.

Don’t marry because you want a permanent honeymoon.

That version does not exist.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

Fantastic wisdom right there!!

[Shubhvani @shubhvanii]

You think life is fair?

1. There are good women who are sidechicks
2. Whores that have perfect relationships
3. Good guys who are being cheated on
4. Lazy people who have money
5. Givers who are really poor
6. Stingy people who are rich
7. Hardworking people who are paupers
8. Innocent people who are in prison
9. Thieves walking freely
10. Poor people with a perfect immune system
11. Rich people who dare not skip a week to visit the clinic,
12. Hungry people with no illness, foodies with ulcer dilemmas

Just live and let live - also try to enjoy life as it comes.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

I couldn't agree more...I hope @ParliamentofRSA is listening real hard and right!!

[observent @aviwe_badi]

Being in Zanzibar shifted something in me in a way I’m still struggling to explain.

So many Tanzanians asked us about Sundowns and told us it was their favourite South African team. Some had read Long Walk to Freedom. They spoke to us about the Solomon Mahlangu Freedom College and about South Africa with so much warmth and familiarity.

It reminded me that our history has never existed in isolation from the rest of Africa. Other African countries sheltered, educated and supported South Africans during some of the darkest periods of apartheid. Our cultures, politics and liberation histories are far more intertwined than the xenophobic discourse back home would have us believe.

Then you come home and watch movements build political relevance by teaching South Africans to view other Africans with suspicion and resentment.

Zanzibar genuinely changed my perspective. I have no patience left for that kind of politics. The politics of xenophobia, scapegoating and anti African hatred must die.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

@HonSirajAli @MoWT_Uganda Welcome aboard honourable!!

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

@Winnie_Byanyima @kiizaeron May Anthony's soul rest in eternal peace!!

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

A rude wake up call for the Kenyan voter...

[Willis Evans Otieno @otienowill]

Those legacy politicians you follow take their wives and children to Aga Khan’s Princess Zahra Pavilion, The Nairobi Hospital North Wing, MP Shah’s VIP Suites, Gertrude’s Pediatric “platinum” floors, Karen Hospital’s executive wing, and Mater’s private annex ; hospitals where one night costs more than what most Kenyans earn in six months.

Meanwhile, the very people who employ them, the sovereign citizens of this country, are left to line up at Nyalgunga Dispensary where a doctor was last seen in 2006, and where paracetamol is rationed like contraband.

This is the Kenyan state stripped bare:
Five-star healthcare for the rulers, survival-mode improvisation for the ruled. How do leaders who swear oaths to serve the public justify living in medical comfort that rivals Dubai, while their own citizens are forced to travel 40km for an injection?
How do they celebrate SHA as a “revolution” while ensuring their own families never step foot in the facilities they impose on everyone else?
How do they justify building VIP treatment into their insurance packages while public hospitals run out of syringes?

The hypocrisy of Kenya’s political class is not just in what they say; it is in where they seek treatment.

They can afford the best private hospitals, private wings, specialist care and medical evacuation when necessary. Their children do not queue at dispensaries with no doctor. Their wives do not give birth in overcrowded wards. Their families do not have to travel 40 kilometres because the nearest facility has run out of medicine, oxygen, syringes or staff.

Yet these same leaders return to the public and lecture ordinary Kenyans about patience, sacrifice and the “success” of healthcare reforms.

That is the real scandal: the people designing and defending the public healthcare system have deliberately insulated themselves from its consequences. They never have to experience the queues, the shortages, the broken equipment, the delayed referrals or the humiliation that millions of Kenyans endure.

A serious leader should be able to walk into the same public hospital they expect an ordinary Kenyan to use and receive the same standard of care. Until those in power have a personal stake in fixing public hospitals, they will continue treating healthcare as a campaign slogan while purchasing comfort for themselves.

You cannot call a healthcare system revolutionary when its architects have private escape routes from the very system they are imposing on everyone else.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

@Airtel_Ug @UCC_Official I just bought a 12GB data bundle for a MIFI that covers 30 days and costs Ush30,000. But I was overcharged Ush60,000 by your billing system. Is this public holiday theft? I need my cash back ASP!!

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

May her soul deeply rest in eternal peace!! My own mother passed away on 30th March 2026 and the pain has not left my heart and soul!!

[Nicholas Opiyo (Pronouns He/Him) @nickopiyo]

Mego Regina Aywelo Agol, our beloved mother, has been laid to rest today in Lacor, Gulu City. Mama, the gentle giant, excellent dancer, and disciplinarian par excellence, we will miss you.

When you see Ladit Okee Dusman and Lapwony Ochola-Oniba, tell them we are well. Tell them we are doing our utmost best to make you all proud.

You are a great raconteur. Get together, dance, sing, and tell those wonderful tales. Reunite in the heavens and look down upon us, your sons and daughters, with pride. Intercede for us; continue to guide us.

We do not mourn, but celebrate your life. Your grandchildren and great-grandchildren will miss you.

@norbertmao @DanFredKidega @RtHonKidega @RealBeaMao @obalim86

[Mathias Ssemanda @MathiasSsemanda]

China’s disruption of Japan, Korea, Europe and U.S.’ technology hegemony can’t be underestimated. As recent as 2010, a 65” LED TV would cost around UGX 8M in stores like Shoprite and Nakumatt. Hisense has disrupted those prices with huge screen TV sets costing less than USD 500.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

I hear you comrade @Codongtho My mother passed away in March 2026 and i'm still feeling the pain of it all. I definitely miss her a lot!! My sincere condolences to you and family!!

[Charles Odongtho @Codongtho]

2026 is already an unforgetable year! A pure soul of a brother gone with the wind,and now my gem, a woman who kept me safe and alive for 9 months in her womb; spared nothing to make me all i am. Mum, if Heaven wants you more, then rest well in glory! Greet Ben, Lynn and the rest.

[Jude Byamukama @Jbyam1]

At some point in the future, there should be a Commission of Inquiry and prosecution of the JLOS enablers of human rights violations of this era.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

I hope this sinks in!! I've got nothing useful to add here!!

[SizweLo @SizweLo]

When people are being manipulated, they don’t realise it. Otherwise, it wouldn’t work.

Whenever bad actors seek to destabilise a country, they don’t manufacture grievances from scratch. Instead, they identify genuine, existing frustrations and use them as vehicles for mobilisation. That is simply the most efficient strategy.

This is why those being mobilised often react emotionally when confronted with the suggestion that someone else may be exploiting the movement because deep down they know in their heart of hearts that they feel very strongly about this. Who are you to tell them someone else is putting ideas in their heads?

In fact, the more genuine the people’s grievance, the easier it is for dark forces to weaponise, and the harder it is for the person experiencing it to see the puppet strings.

This is because external actors don’t invent grievances out of thin air; that would require too much energy to sustain. Instead, they act like a lens focusing sunlight on the grass of genuine systemic failure, economic hardship or social injustice. On things the target population has every right to be angry about.

The crucial distinction lies in where the energy is directed. Instead of channelling public anger into reform, accountability and institution-building, “solutions” are redirected toward maximum polarisation and social fragmentation.

So, anytime someone tells a mobilised citizen, “You’re being used by hidden forces”, the citizen doesn’t hear a political analysis. They hear: “Your pain isn’t real. You are too stupid/gullible to think for yourself”. Naturally, the ego and the emotions revolt and commitment to the cause deepens.

There’s very little anyone can do about this. Directly confronting someone who is emotionally charged with the fact that they are a pawn is always counterproductive. It causes them to dig in deeper because the alternative, admitting they were manipulated while processing their real pain is psychologically devastating.

Another important dimension is how external agitators don’t intervene randomly, but pick moments when those grievances are already near a boiling point. This makes the intervention difficult to detect and attribute. This way, any attempt at de-escalation gets reframed as betrayal or collaboration with the enemy.

The deeper irony is that the very qualities that make someone a good citizen, such as caring deeply about injustice, being willing to act on their convictions and refusing to be gaslit about their own lived experience, are precisely what makes them more recruitable.

The sad thing about destabilisation is that the grievances are real, but the proposed “solutions” are designed not to solve the underlying problems, but to deepen division and erode public trust.

In the end, the people on the ground are left holding the matches to burn their own country down, entirely unaware of who brought the petrol and tyres.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

You just nailed it!! Over to you @Julius_S_Malema

[Jessica Maswanganyi @jessicdutchess_]

Food for thought

[Cyprian, Is Nyakundi @C_NyaKundiH]

Kenyan Journalists working for international Media houses like Associated Press, Reuters & BBC Africa have requested a parliamentary committee investigation into allegations of labour exploitation and violations of their rights.

In the statement read to parliament by Funyula MP Dr Wilberforce Oundo, International Media Houses have been accused of underpaying Kenyans, paying Kenyan freelancers as little as $150 while paying white freelancers up to $1500. The media houses have also been accused of paying Kenyan staff $1500 while paying White journalists up to $10,000 a month.

Kenya currently hosts the highest number of foreign correspondents in Africa, as many African countries have stringent laws against foreigners freelancing in their countries.

The international media houses have also been accused of bringing journalists from foreign countries to work in Kenya while refusing to hire Kenyans to the same jobs

Kenyan journalists have also complained of being blacklisted from work by Bureau chiefs whenever they raise complaints on the issues to do with pay and racial discrimination.

[Cyprian, Is Nyakundi @C_NyaKundiH]

I have seen the Kenya Kwanza regime doing a lot of public education on the Finance Bill, maybe thinking they are preventing another June 2024 moment.

What they do not understand is that June 2024 may not repeat itself as a Finance Bill protest, but it opened the door for anything. Kenyans can wake up tomorrow and protest over taxes, corruption, unemployment, police brutality, arrogance, school fees, fuel prices, electricity bills, or even because they do not like how the President smiles when people are suffering.

That is how uncalculating this regime is. They think the problem was one document called the Finance Bill, yet the real problem is anger, mistrust and the feeling that citizens are being ruled by people who do not listen.

You can explain the Finance Bill from morning to evening, but you cannot public educate people out of hunger, joblessness and betrayal.

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

@DismasWaTabu Same reality here!! Going overseas to hustle specifically Europe and USA is usually done in secret for similar reasons!! But moving to the Middle East to hustle is treated differently-almost everyone gets to see you in a photo boarding a plane en masse!!

[Bernard Busuulwa @BernardBusuulwa]

Strange but true in the Kenyan and Ugandan context!!

[DismasWaTabu @DismasWaTabu]

A Kenyan will sit next to you at dinner, eat your food, laugh at your jokes and complain about everything with you. Not once will they mention that they have been in a visa process for two years, passed their English test, secured a job offer, shipped their belongings and booked a one way ticket.

One Tuesday morning you wake up to a photo of them in a winter coat somewhere that is clearly not Nairobi. Caption: New chapter. Grateful heart. God did.

Their mother found out the same time you did.

This is not dishonesty. This is survival strategy perfected over generations. Kenyans have learned through painful experience that announcing a plan is the fastest way to kill it. Tell someone you are applying for a visa and suddenly everyone has an opinion. Aunties begin praying against it. Colleagues develop a strange interest in your affairs. Someone tells someone and the energy shifts.

So the process goes underground. Head down. Mouth closed. Documents moving. Prayers private.

And before you judge them for keeping secrets, know that some of these people did not even tell their spouses. Not because of trust issues. But because a spouse has a mother. The mother has a prayer group. The prayer group has a WhatsApp group. And that WhatsApp group has that one member who will fast and pray specifically against your visa.

So is this superstition, self protection or have we been hurt enough times to trust nobody with our dreams until they are already real?

And be honest. Are you currently silent about something right now?

Dismas wa Tabu. Dreaming in installments. Billed in full.