My name is Bex

[My name is Bex @BexxyCheese22]

@fesshole When I had morphine after a c-section my newborn baby’s stuffed toy talked to me and I kept thinking the surgeons were coming at me with scalpels..

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@oelma__ No. A tip is for excellent service. You get paid to do your job. No one tips me for doing a great job as a carer..

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@AffluentMist Always. It’s just basic respect for their privacy. They don’t pay rent because they are the CHILDREN I chose to bring into this world.
When they are adults I would expect them to pay rent, and I’ll still knock before I walk into their room/house.

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@Seraphinaf5 71

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@Avabelly__ Tell me you are American without telling me .. who cares? He’s not being inappropriate in any way, unlike you, taking photos of a man in his own garden.

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@cosmicpopmuzik @fesshole Cheating husbands.

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@akafaceUS No.

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@silentblossom_ How is this a question? The customer is wrong and the salon owner was very patient!

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@populartravelss Blatant AI. I hate this new technology.

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@Crazymoments01 How many legs does that mother cat have?? AI nonsense

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@CF_Farrow Now they are trying to lay the blame with the home education community, using this little girls tragic death to push forward a monitoring and control agenda. They failed her, all the agencies that should have protected this child KNEW she was at high risk, and still failed her.

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@DisrespectedThe Good to call your kid out for being mean to other kids. Better ways of doing it though.

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@SouthCoastRed She’s maybe been busy with all the surgeries and raising awareness after being brutally attacked and disfigured. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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@HazelAppleyard_ You can do all of those things and if your man has no morals or respect for you, he’ll cheat on you anyway.

[Stan Collymore @StanCollymore]

Suicide.

I'm choosing to be deliberately blunt and provocative in this post because it's necessary. Government, charities, football clubs are all pushing water up a hill in highlighting what is undoubtedly a major health crisis.

You take a rope.
You put it up in a garage or a tree nearby or far away.
You're thinking about every loved one you'll leave behind as you put that rope around your neck.
Then you drop.

Some are decapitated.
Some aren't.
All are found by someone who has a lifetime of trauma that will never leave them.
A son.
A daughter.
A brother.
A sister.
A mother.
A father.

I know 2 men who hung themselves.

One was found by his Mom.
One was found by his brother.
Neither have recovered fully. 20 and 30 years on.

A life sentence for people who were already worrying, terrified their loved one may do something.

So just visualise the above and ask, "is there another way"?

A segway for a moment.

I do a few Q&A's every year. Tales of yesterday with a 99% male audience of my age group.

After the stories and fun, my last question back to the audience is..

"Hands up if you struggle with a mental health issue".

Nobody ever puts a hand up. Despite 1 in every 3 of 500 attendees statistically struggling.

"Ah, nobody, that's fucking brilliant! Well I do! ". I then graphically tell people, stunned into silence about how a rope around my neck in the middle of nowhere jolted me to go home and cry like a baby to my Mom.

After the Q&A has finished, something always happens. I'll be chatting to a few guys, saying bye and one by one, men will come over and whisper " I struggle".

Or my mailbox the next day will have 30 emails from guys, their partners or kids saying " Dad/Uncle /Brother was there last night and what you said hit them hard".

And that's how some people realise that it's time to speak to a pal or family member or even rant to me in an email. It works, I often get a follow up email a year or 6 later saying that they took responsibility for their suicidal feelings and are now flying.

Humans are programmed to want to live, to have families and to keep the species growing and thriving. So for a human to want to short circuit that desire isn't normal, and it should never be spoken of as normal. It's the ultimate red flag.

If you suspect your mate, Dad, Brother, Uncle is struggling mentally, they deserve your intervention.

They deserve a " are you OK, please tell me what's up".

They deserve an opportunity to get past wanting to hang a rope over a tree or in a garage and slowly struggle until they die and you find them.

If you've been there and trust me I have plenty, then you'll know that text out of the blue, or a footie mate or one of your kids asking jow you are can open the curtains to some sunshine.

Because when suicide is your only answer, the room is already dark, and you can't see a way out.

So please, fucking pretty please, ask that husband, Dad, Uncle, Cousin, footie pal TODAY how they are.

You may be shocked what comes back but extremely glad that you asked.

For those who struggle, you're not alone.

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@Autistic_Lauren All of them. 499 - that’s the max. And probably 10+ apps open too at any time. But I got assessed, not ADHD. Apparently.

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@HazelAppleyard_ I borrowed a swimsuit once, but never in 51 years have I borrowed a friends underwear. Ew.

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@charliersmith1 These Degus hope you are doing okay.

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@fesshole Good for you, your ex is still better off without you tho.

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@mymixtapez I would never touch my kids money. It’s my job as the adult to provide for them.